Postponed wedding

I'm so sorry you feel this way, but I totally understand. Congratulations on getting married and I hope you find some excitement!

Give it some time. It is really hard. I was struggling with a similar thing. For me in the begging, I wanted nothing to do with planning after moving the date. In the last week or so, I have had little waves where I was able to do some of the big things that needed to get done. If you have time, there is no pressure to do things now. Give yourself some grace.

I understand your sadness, when is your new wedding celebration taking place? Could it be a one year anniversary party/vow renewal/reception?

We felt this way too. My husband is deploying in Novemebr so our April wedding was the ideal time as he originally had 60 days of leave to move us across country. I tried planning something again but I was so sad. We now have a new move date and it allows us a whopping 5 days to plan something. I have opted to hire a photographer to take pictures at a beautiful hotel. The only family joining us will be my parents. I am so bummed that it has to be this way but it is the only option for us to create some memories. He hasn't seen me in my dress yet and I think I will be excited once that dress is on. Could you repurchase some of your vendors and do something ridiculously small? That way you can not feel shortchanged on the emotional aspect of it?

I think it’s good to keep in mind that you can now still celebrate your marriage with your family and friends. Do they know that the two of you already got married? If not, make it a fun surprise during the ceremony. Maybe change the wording and plans for the ceremony and personalize it in a new way based on the situation. I think you can have a lot of fun with it now that some of the stress is gone. I agree that the marriage is the most important piece. But I’m sure that your family/friends would still be so honored to celebrate your union. You might not feel the excitement at this moment but I’m sure you will that day! Congrats!!!

View Quoted Comment It’s in August. We’re now struggling with the fact we won’t know if masks will still be required and may have to postpone again. I don’t know what to do. I dont want to postpone yet but it’s hard to plan with the not knowing :/

View Quoted Comment Yes that is so hard. It feels like anything I do lately affects something else and pushes another piece of my life back. I am considering cancelling our venue for our postponed August wedding and getting the other vendors to just come to the backyard. I just don’t like knowing what restrictions will be in place in August. It’s turned into a nightmare honestly. But I am sure having your husband in the military makes this so much harder, especially if he is going to deploy without you. Hoping for happier days for all!

View Quoted Comment Yea this whole thing is a mess. I am praying that things ease up soon because it is just too much. I would definitely see if vendors can do a backyard wedding. Nice photography would still be nice, and you can really spruce up the house to make an intimate setting. I could definitely see it being beautiful. You will just have to want to move forward. Even that is scary now! First time planning I was like TAKE MY MONEY! Now I am like....okay, let me think about this....for a few years.

View Quoted Comment Haha yeah I think all brides are thinking twice about their every move now. I would love to do a backyard wedding because right now my biggest anxiety is I have no idea what the restrictions will be. But we are locked into a contract with our venue and no clue if they’ll let us cancel

Congratulations on getting married!! Yay!!
On the other note I feel you... It feels like a burden. I would cancel everything but can't because of how much we already put into it. Our original date was 10/17/20 now pushed to 05/15/21. We loved our original date and settled for our new one. Also having no Job really affects our overall budget. Debating on cutting back our guest count. It's just awful honestly.

View Quoted Comment It’s the not knowing that’s the hardest. I wouldn’t postpone again if it were me. I’ve got my 50 person wedding list as a backup, and could live stream it I guess for everyone else. I also have a videographer so maybe I wouldn’t livestream IDK.


It’s emotionally exhausting trying to “plan” anything right now. I hope a month from now we’ll all know what the heck to do.

View Quoted Comment I’m sorry you’re also dealing with unemployment and yeah we can’t cancel but more than anything in the world I want to. Like I just want to cancel the venue, and just invite our closest family and friends to the backyard. Personally I think it’s shameful that vendors are not letting us out of contracts. Just because they’re afraid of going out of business does not mean we should have to suffer.

My wedding was originally planned for May 23,2020. We did not get married yet and have postponed until late July. Sadly, that won’t be able to happen either. I feel the same way. I find no joy in planning a “new” wedding after spending 16 months planning my perfect day. I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way.

View Quoted Comment I’m sorry! You definitely can’t have your July wedding? Depending on where you live things may be better by then! But it’s very depressing, especially for those of us who were sooo close. I don’t even want to wear my wedding dress since I’m already married. It all seems silly now.

View Quoted Comment We are going to try to get married just at a courthouse (if it opens) or somewhere small. Im not sure at this point if I can go get my wedding dress or not either. It is not for certain that we cannot have a ceremony in July, but we will not be able to have our ~120 person wedding we had planned for.
I wish you the best in whatever you decide to do. I’m happy you decided to get married

View Quoted Comment Hoping everything opens for you so you can at least be married! But also hoping you can have the wedding your planned, even if it happens a little later!!