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Savvy September 2020

Postponed Wedding Invites - postcard or evite?

Cristina, on June 18, 2020 at 11:43 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 16

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Hi everyone!
Our wedding was supposed to be in May but was postponed to September due to the pandemic. At the time we postponed we already had sent our invitations (which weren’t cheap..) and received most of our responses. Now I’m trying to figure out what to do about invites for our new date. We had already let everyone know the date change as soon as we knew via text (it’s the easiest way to get in touch), but I still feel like we need to send some sort of invite for the new date. Since we already did the fancy paper invitations and RSVPs for the first date, I honestly don’t want to deal with the hassle (or cost) again. We’re thinking of just having people respond on our wedding website to keep things simple, since people forgot about the paper RSVPs last time anyway 🙄.

I’m just not sure if we should sent a quick postcard with the link or if an E-vite is acceptable? Or are both options “tacky”? To be honest, texting is the easiest way to get in touch with people but I feel rude sending invite over text... Has anyone else had this issue? Thanks in advance!

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Latest activity by Lynnie, on June 23, 2020 at 2:05 PM

Legend June 2019
Melle · on June 18, 2020 at 11:46 AM
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I think an e-vite is fine but whomever isn't very tech savvy then should get a postcard
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Master August 2021
Jasmine · on June 18, 2020 at 11:46 AM
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Considering what's happened and its a date change, I honestly feel like a postcard/e-vite would totally be acceptable and understandable.
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Super June 2020
Renee · on June 18, 2020 at 11:54 AM
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Girl I feel you! I’m so over being formal and providing proper etiquette. It’s costing me and driving up my budget! These folks are going to get a second RSVP card and a text to remind them to respond to 1 of the 2 options. The website will be included so they can either RSVP online or send the RSVP card back. I refuse to spend another cent on anything related to stationary at this point. STD, Change the Date, invitations and now 2nd RSVP card... I’m over it!!
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Master May 2020
Kari · on June 18, 2020 at 11:55 AM
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Have you seen if the company you printed your invites through will redo them? A number of companies have offered to reprint for couples impacted by the virus or offer credit (which could be used for custom thank you cards or other stationary if you don't want to go through the hassle of reprinting). It doesn't hurt to ask.
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Super June 2021
Virginia · on June 18, 2020 at 12:04 PM
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We sent Change the Date postcards but will send regular invitations again when the time comes.
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Master October 2019
Meghan · on June 18, 2020 at 12:33 PM
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Post cards with online RSVP's sounds like a perfect option to me.
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Savvy September 2020
Cristina · on June 18, 2020 at 1:38 PM
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That’s a good point, thank you! We got our invitations through Minted. I don’t remember seeing them offer a discount, but it’s definitely worth asking!
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VIP September 2020
Neeva · on June 18, 2020 at 2:44 PM
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I am sending a post card and a covid information insert and people can rsvp (again) online
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Devoted November 2020
Danica · on June 18, 2020 at 3:08 PM
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We had to postpone from the spring to fall of this year.....I sent everyone an electronic version of the invitation with the new date and a personalized email (but we are having a microwedding either way, so that might not work for you depending how many you have attending) and that seemed to be just fine for everyone.
We updated our wedding website with the new date as well and COVID precaution info from our venues.
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Legend July 2019
MrsD · on June 18, 2020 at 3:29 PM
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I don't think either option is tacky! If it were me, I'd do postcards. As a guest, paper invites vs. evites seem way more formal/real to me.
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VIP March 2015
Nefetera · on June 19, 2020 at 7:52 AM
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You can do the evite. That's perfect. Paperlesspost is amazing some of there evites are free
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Savvy September 2020
Cristina · on June 19, 2020 at 8:21 AM
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I know, this whole situation has been so frustrating and stressful to say the least! Thanks for the idea, and best of luck with your planning!
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Savvy September 2020
Cristina · on June 19, 2020 at 8:23 AM
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Thanks for your advice! That’s a good point, the paper invites/postcard do give more of a formal and personal touch.
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Savvy September 2020
Cristina · on June 19, 2020 at 8:25 AM
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Thanks for the recommendation! I’ll definitely look into it
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Just Said Yes September 2020
Samantha · on June 19, 2020 at 10:30 PM
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I am in the exact same boat (already cancelled March wedding, need to send something out for new September wedding) with the exact same debate! I am thinking we are just going to do e-vites as we have a small guest list anyway. I'm struggling with the wording, though. All of the cute e-vite templates I've found say "We regret to inform you will be postponing" or something like that (which they obviously already know). I came on here to get some inspiration on wording and your post is the first one I saw. Good luck!
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Lynnie · on June 23, 2020 at 2:05 PM
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Hi Samantha! Check out the e-vite designs that are normally for the main wedding invitation - your wording and info will have more in common with that card!
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