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Just Said Yes July 2021

Postponed Wedding Depression

Alexis, on August 22, 2020 at 7:39 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 10

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Okay I know this may seem really trivial, but I have become increasingly more depressed after postponing my wedding. We were originally scheduled for July 18 this year, but because of covid had to reschedule to next year to get the wedding we want. I had completely accepted the change and even welcomed the extra time to plan and save, until my friends’ lives began to change. A few of my friends already had babies, but there were a few newlyweds left in the group without kids. One by one they all became pregnant and now I feel like I’ve been left in the dust. Whenever we get together it’s always baby talk and I feel like nobody cares about me or what I have going on. I feel like my special day is no longer important and is considered “old news”. I feel like my life is at a standstill and my friends are all progressing at the same pace. I understand that this is completely ridiculous and I shouldn’t be feeling this way, but I’m hoping there are others out there that could relate and might have advice?

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Latest activity by FallFlorals, on September 6, 2020 at 5:10 AM

Master April 2021
Mrs. Spring · on August 22, 2020 at 8:01 PM
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Yup, I used to feel the same way. I just got over it and realized everyone has their own life. Ialso decided to elope instead of having an actual wedding.
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Super September 2020
Leanne · on August 22, 2020 at 8:33 PM
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I understand too. Just have faith that when you’re day gets close, everyone will be so happy for you!!
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Lisa · on August 22, 2020 at 9:50 PM
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I completely understand what you are you saying. My fiancé and I have been together the longest out just about all our friends yet we are last one to be married. We always knew we’d get married but it was never the right time because of money, a new job and now Covid. And this year was supposed to be it. All our friends have kids and are starting to buy houses and so on. Now we have to wait another year to get married, another year to start a family, another year to save for house (how can we now that my fiancé hasn’t worked since March because of Covid and paying for the wedding on our own). But we realize that you cannot compare yourself to others. No one and no relationship is perfect. But this is your life, your relationship and your future family. There is no right time or ideal time or schedule you are supposed to follow.
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Devoted July 2020
Christina · on August 22, 2020 at 10:17 PM
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Don’t compare. They might not be talking about the wedding because they don’t know how to cheer you up or might not be sure if you wanna talk about it. Your going to get your big day ! Your going to have a baby shower one day and a house warming if that’s what you want !
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Master October 2020
Yasmine · on August 22, 2020 at 10:23 PM
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I wouldn’t take it personal, just like weddings are exciting so I having a baby. I’m sure they’re just excited for their new chapters and they have every right to be. I think once your wedding is closer the excitement will come back!
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Expert December 2020
Kayse · on August 23, 2020 at 12:05 PM
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Everyone is on their own timeline. I'm 36 and getting married and starting a family. Some of my friends had babies in their early 20's. Others still don't have kids. I also think it's really hard for people to think so far ahead right now with COVID and all the unknowns....l'm having trouble even thinking ahead to my December wedding. I'm sure when things are closer, people will be more excited for you and your wedding will be incredible :-)
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Hhh · on August 23, 2020 at 12:34 PM
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I’m in the same boat and know exactly how you feel! I was starting to get more upset about it after we postponed (more angry than sad), but then I had a couple friends mention small comments that helped- one said she was so looking forward to the postponed bachelorette party being bc she can party hard before she starts trying for her 2nd, and 2 others commented that now they won’t have newborns and will be able to come when they otherwise wouldn’t have! Yeah it sucks feeling left behind, but my FH is good at reminding me how we have always done things on our own schedule - not to mention there are places in our lives where our friends see us as being ahead of them (careers, advanced degrees, moving states).
Try to focus on the positives from postponing. I hope you can shake off the frustration!
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Devoted September 2021
Crystal · on August 30, 2020 at 3:54 PM
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First off you are completely allowed and valid in feeling that way girl! It’s super hard right now to not compare our lives with our friends and family. I’m in the same boat, I feel you I got engaged almost two years ago and had to postpone our wedding that should be in three weeks to next sept, but my cousin who got engaged in December got married in July and is buying a new house and starting her life. I feel you for sure! Just keep your head up and soldier on. Covid f#*k*! Up everything. 💕 ✊🏼
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Just Said Yes October 2020
Brittany · on September 3, 2020 at 2:34 PM
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I feel all of that too, 5 years together.... wanted To get married last year and now this year is a complete trash fire. I feel jaded about my age and life plans
That would make the wait harder and possibly more depressing.
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Just Said Yes October 2020
FallFlorals · on September 6, 2020 at 5:10 AM
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Hi! I’ve had to postpone this year too, you’re not alone .

It’s a very difficult time. But I am trying really hard to look at the positive side to all of this. We actually saved about $30,000 by cancelling a reception and lowering our first count due to Covid. Also I don’t have to see or invite family members I don’t like which is a hugeeeee plus.
Saving all that money means my fiancé can go to school to finish his bachelors and we can be one step closer to putting a down payment on a house - something that all my friends have been able to accomplish (and they are all 3 years younger than me).
Hang in there!
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