Postponed Wedding and Babies

You have to do what’s right for you, no one else’s opinion except yours and your fiancé’s are really relevant in this decision. I have seen other people post about wanting to start families and not wanting to wait another year until after their now postponed wedding. Summer people are getting married this year with only a couple guests, others are waiting until the big wedding can happen. It’s really up to you.

I don't see the issue with it. You could elope and do a vow renewal.

View Quoted Comment Very true!

View Quoted Comment Thank you! I guess there’s really no right or wrong answer. Such a crazy year.

PP is right, you have to do what works for you. Just keep in mind that it’s not likely you’ll get pregnant right away. Are you fine with being 8 or 9 months pregnant at your wedding? Even if things do go to plan, do you want to have a newborn at your wedding? Do you have plans for dress fittings while pregnant?

View Quoted Comment I think the uncertainty of not knowing how long it will take to get pregnant is also my worry. And I definitely would need dress fittings. I’m not sure if having a newborn at the wedding would be ideal but I’d make it work if a miracle happened. I probably wouldn’t want to be pregnant at 8 or 9 months. COVIDs really messed up my plans.

There's definitely no right or wrong way to go about this. We got married on Saturday and were already planning on waiting about a year to start trying to have a baby, so it's not an identical situation, but we postponed our reception and had a conversation about this yesterday. Our new date is 7/24/21, so hopefully that will happen, but if we can't have the event we imagined (masks are okay, a prohibition on bars isn't), we've already agreed to postpone again until we can. If we have to postpone again, we would plan it so I would be no more than 6 months pregnant at the reception or the baby would be at least 3 months old (so we'd use birth control in months 6-12 before the reception). I think that's what I would also do if it were an actual wedding. I just wouldn't want to risk going into labor during the wedding or have to deal with recovering from giving birth while getting married.

We had to postpone our wedding but still ended up getting mArried on our original date. Now during this time we have been trying. So if get pregnant before the new date we would not be upset. I say go for it.

My husband and I have been “secretly” married for a year now (aug 2) and we just found out I am pregnant. I’ll be 4 months at our wedding and most likely showing quite a bit. You do you. If your family is supportive, they will be happy for you

I’d definitely say do you. You have to do what’s right for you. We are considering trying very soon after our wedding October 2021. If we have to postpone, we’ll likely legally marry, try to get pregnant and then schedule a big reception for 2022.

If you feel the timing right now is right to have a baby, go for it! only you know your body and your timing and your situation

This was a concern of mine as well! We are still getting legally married this October 17 (our actual wedding date) with a small church ceremony with immediate family (no dress, no Zoom, no wedding party), but moved the celebration with all our guests to next October. Wanting to start a family was the main reason for still getting married this year. So even though we're doing the whole big party and wedding dress and wedding party etc next year, we'll technically be married this year and I could be baby bumping by next year, or even have a newborn! I'm 33, my FH is 34, so we're not wanting to wait. Of course, we all know you don't need to be married to have kids, and how you plan your family is your prerogative! For me, personally, I preferred to be married so this was the best of both worlds. Our families are already making bets on when I'll be pregnant BUT what I've learned throughout this entire pandemic wedding planning is that nothing about it is "normal" and to just go with the flow, so whatever you and your fiance choose to do, is exactly right. Good luck!!