Postponed October Wedding

We postponed to next October too.Making the first call to friends was the toughest.Cheer up, before we know it, it will be October 2021!

We are leaning towards canceling our November wedding completely, and then just doing a 20 person "elopement style" wedding at the end of this summer, and then having a big reception sometime in 2021 when things are looking better. It's SUCH an emotional process!! I told my fiance it's like your hopes and dreams are being crushed. But, the most important thing is that you marry the love of your life, and then the big party will be amazing whenever it happens. Hang in there, you are not alone in how you're feeling!

We postponed from May to October. We’re hoping to make it work. We will not invite some people in order to limit the people. (Some I’m happy to uninvite.). It’s hard making the decision but you need to do what’s best.

Postponed to Oct. 2021. There probably won't be a vaccine deployed yet this October, so after talking through how to handle a social distanced dance floor, and keeping relatives we haven't seen in years from trying to hug us and everyone else, and having masks and hand sanitizer all over, we decided the party will not be like we had imagined if we try to do it this year...

I guess I am not as upset about things since I knew we were never having a huge wedding but here is my perspective and I hope it is not harsh as it is not meant to be. I get it, it sucks and you should not be crying during such a happy time and I am sorry you are going through this. COVID sucks horribly and is changing everyone's life. As little girls we have thought of how our big day would be and I get that all this time planning to postpone it is miserable. I really think that you two should get married and really just focus on the fact that you get to marry the love of your life. It is great having the big day and you can still have that but do not let postponing it get you down at all because you deserve to be happy. I think you should have a small elopement and then something larger later and think of it this way, you can wear your dress twice/ I know this is nothing that will cheer you up but I am sending positive vibes your way.

I feel for you. I postponed my July wedding recently and it stings! Give yourself a little time to grieve your day. I'm still sad when I think about my postponed wedding, but the feeling I never thought I would experience is RELIEF! I feel so much relief not having to check the news every day and read up on these boards about what other July brides planned to do, had they made their decisions, etc. Next year may be no better, but at least we will have a lot of time to see how this all unfolds and how events go over the next year. Best of luck to you!

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Thanks, and you are right! Sending some love your way

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You are so right about hopes and dreams feeling crushed I keep telling myself it will all work out, but this is not what I imagined for our big day. But, it is true that what matters most is marrying the love of your life, so I am happy we can continue with that this year. It'll be a great party next year! It has to be!

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LOL, I had that thought too! There are some people I will be happy to "slip" off the list a year from now that I don't see us being in much contact with. Def a silver lining there!

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EXACTLY. We had a big party scheduled with lots of dancing, and a photo booth, and are very affectionate people, so I can't imagine our day being so isolating!

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Thanks, Kristen. You are 100% correct. I've been focusing on the positive side of being able to keep our wedding date this year with immediate family, and then celebrating next year. As my sister put it, "It's going to be two amazing days. Only Suzie gets TWO weddings!" LOL. Wearing my dress twice is a pretty sweet deal

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YES! The feelings of relief are so real. I've had so much anxiety over the unknown and having no control over what October will bring. Having a decision, although painful, has def given me some relief. We had originally planned on waiting it out until the end of July, but it's been eating away at me. At least now we know. Best of luck to you as well!

View Quoted Comment Girl think of how much we spend on these dresses. Yes... Wear it twice lol. I am glad you're feeling better. Having our down moments are normal during this process. I am glad you're still going forward.