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Dedicated June 2021

Postponed Brides

Angie, on January 12, 2021 at 8:16 PM Posted in Planning 2 10
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Hi everyone! Those of you who have already postponed your weddings, I'm looking for your input. Our original date was June 27th, 2020 and we pushed it out a year. I was really hoping things would work out, but I don't think it will be safe for large gatherings until the fall from what I've been reading about the vaccine roll out, etc.

My fiancé and I have been together for 10 years. I'm 33 and he's 42. I am not postponing our wedding again. My question is, when do I start replanning things? There isn't much I have to do yet, but I don't want to go through mailing out invites and then having to restrict it to a lower number. Those of you who have already postponed, but are getting married this summer what is your plan of action? I'm not sure when I should start cutting the guest list, etc. I'm trying to figure out when I should start making tough decisions because I don't want to get excited planning again and then have to make changes and be disappointed yet again. I've been waiting a long time for our wedding day, and although it may be superficial to some it's very important to me. I know I will need time to accept that it won't be the way we were hoping or planning for, but I don't want to pull the trigger too early either.

COVID sucks!!!

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Latest activity by Dj Tanner, yesterday at 6:35 PM
  • Katie
    Expert August 2020
    Katie Online ·
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    Hi Angie! We share the same original date ❤️ If I were in your shoes, I wouldn’t officially cut the list until April. I would explore outdoor options if you currently have an indoor plan. I would make a shortened list in the meantime just in case. Covid is such a moving target when wedding planning! If it helps, we wed in August 2020 and although we had guests with masks and hand sanitizer available, it did not ruin our day!! 👍 hope this helps ❤️
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  • J
    Dedicated August 2021
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    Fellow COVID bride here. Postponed from July 2020 to August 2021 and will shout with you about how much it sucks.

    Something that brought me a bit of comfort was tiering the guest list based on what could be the maximum number allowed. Our list is 200 and I've made sublists for immediate family only, 25, 50, 75, 100, 125, and 150 guests. That way I feel prepared for the situation in August, whatever it may be. We're not postponing again either.

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  • Katie
    Expert August 2020
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    Good thinking!!!
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  • Mrs. Spring
    Master April 2021
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    I think you should have a backup plan guest list in case you'll have to cut it down significantly. Then decide by 8 weeks out which list to use for invites. Keep up with your state's COVID mandates.
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  • Marisa
    Master May 2021
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    This is a great suggestion. We must have revised our guest list so many times and we mailed invitations and turned around to have to end up uninviting people...I would come up with a game plan on your guest list first and foremost.
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  • Dj Tanner
    June 2021
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    Have you tried to reach out to your venues to see if they will allow you to possibly purchase rapid testing for all of your guests before entry? That way you don’t have to worry about sacrificing dancing etc.?
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  • Angie
    Dedicated June 2021
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    Yeah, I was thinking around April. That's when we decided to postpone last year. Our ceremony is outside and if the weather is nice the doors will be open for dinner and people will be able to be outside as much as possible when not eating. I'm just so afraid of spreading it and someone getting really sick or worse, my anxiety is having such a rough time with this. And especially after already postponing for a year so we could have things the way we originally planned, it's hard to think about it still not being what I imagined.

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  • Angie
    Dedicated June 2021
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    I do have a short list I created last year before we postponed. Perhaps I should go over it again. It just really saddens me to cut the list down because it's already a small wedding and I want to celebrate with each person on our list.

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  • Angie
    Dedicated June 2021
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    I don't know if that's an option. Even if it is, sometimes it's too early to be detected on a test. I wouldn't feel safe relying on a plan like that.

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  • Dj Tanner
    June 2021
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    Yeah I hear ya. unfortunately Covid doesn’t seem to be going anywhere anytime soon. Do you think you would be too stressed out the whole night worrying about your guests contracting Covid? I also think it’s important to take into account depending on how strict your regulations are, will your guests even have a good time if they have to sit down with a mask on for an entire evening worrying? These are all crappy decisions to make, but I do understand your desire to keep the wedding date. Hopefully everything works out for you. Good luck!
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