Let me preface this: 1. I know no one is as excited for my wedding than me and FH. 2. I know all bridesmaids are supposed to do is show up for the day. 3. I don't bug my bridesmaids ever with wedding stuff, only occassionally offer if I'm having a project day and let them know they are welcome if interested.
One of my good friends since high school (about 11 years now) is one of my bridesmaids. When I went dress shopping she came to one appointment and posted about "bridesmaid duties", IMO just for attention. During one conversation we had as a group she was more concerned that her hair and makeup be on point on my wedding day than anything else. Whenever I hang out with her alone or with another of my bridesmaids, she never does the general "hows planning going?" And if I bring it up she barely listens and changes the topic quickly. So I stopped after a bit, she clearly wasn't interested and I'm not one to push. Even with my friends that do ask I speak briefly and move on so I'm not being a bridezilla who talks to much about the wedding all the time. She barely responded to my MOH about the bachelorette party- she could have passed if she didn't want to do anything. A few weeks ago I asked in the group message of their opinion on options for postponing. She left it on read. Fast forward to a couple days ago I sent the bridesmaid group a message letting them know I postponed and the plan and she left it on read. I didn't expect a pity party for me, but at least acknowledgment that they are still excited and maybe to say "sorry girl that sucks". Most did. At least if I were a bridesmaid that's how I would respond to a good friend in this situation. But geeze. She has always been kind of self centered, but we all can be sometimes so I've chalked it up to that. And shes got stuff going on like we all do so we've always been the friends that get together after a while to catch up like nothing has changed but we've been busy. But damn am I hurt she just really doesn't seem to care even a little or want to be supportive. Idk I just needed to get that out. It's not worth saying anything to her.