Postponed and depressed

I'm so sorry to hear that. Our wedding was supposed to be TOMORROW but decided back in May it would be best to postpone. Tomorrow we are having our own little celebration at home with balloons, champagne w/ champagne glasses (that my parents got w/ our original date), a cake, and matching corona bride/groom shirts (lol). I think you need to still celebrate that day even if it's going out for a nice dinner or something along those lines.

I was very sad leading up to it but I've come to terms with it and have though of the positives...more time to save money, extra add on things I can get now, bigger bachelorette party etc.

We postponed from 10/10 this year until 4/10 of next year. Hoping that will be enough time for a vaccine. I like to come here to find other brides who are dealing with it as most of us are going through the same thing. Or talking to friends who are going through the same thing. We’ve also looked at it as an opportunity to save more money to do more things at the wedding. For example, we couldn’t afford sit down dinner or a wedding cake, or a full open bar (just beer and wine), but now we can afford all of that with more time to save. I know how much we were all looking forward to our own special days, but I also put into perspective that what the US is going through is bigger than ourselves. There are definitely days I struggle, but know it will be worth it to share the day with all of the people we love! I hope you find peace. 🤍

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Yeah saving more money is definitely a silver lining! Thanks for your thoughtful words.

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I love how you will be spending your original wedding day! that sounds so fun

Postponing a wedding feels like a very drawn out grief process that doesn’t necessarily end when the final decision is made to postpone. It sounds like the change of emotions you’re feeling right now is normal. I’m also an October 2020 bride who is close to postponing to October 2021 (haven’t heard back from all of our vendors yet) and I can definitely relate to the rollercoaster of emotions you’re having. My guess is that there will continue to be some days you feel more positive about the change and days when you feel just really sad, especially as it gets closer to the original date. My FH and I have talked about doing some things other people have said here, like getting some extra things we couldn’t originally afford and planning bigger bachelor and bachelorette parties. We also talked about commemorating our original date this year and in the future by doing something special. I kind of see it like having a baby in a way lol. The original date is like your wedding “due date” and the postponement day is your wedding “birth day!” Humor has been helping in this household 😂

At least you are able to postpone and have plenty of time. You can have your mind at ease knowing there will likely be a vaccine and not have to stress about Covid. My wedding is in October and we are still moving forward for several reasons other than contract, I’ve been racked with guilt for having my wedding and stressing on how we can social distance.

The only thing that makes me not feel so sad/depressed about postponing, is the fact that we won't be putting anyone in danger. That was my biggest worry about continuing on with the wedding as planned. And on the upside, you're still getting married. More time to bask in the engagement, I suppose. It's tough but not the worst thing ever!

Sorry to hear that you are postpoing maybe the silver lining could be you get an extra year to save maybe you can splurge and get an extra for the wedding you could have not if you didnt postpone hang in thier it will be here before you know it

I'm sorry to hear you had to postpone. We had to move ours from 10/16/2020- 04/24/21 ). I can definitely relate to beging sad. Definitely cried on in off the first week. Little by it's been better more time for us to plan. More time to save if you want any extra. Also more to time to plan a bigger bachelorette party!!


It's going to be so much better to have a wedding after businesses have been opened for a while.

My fiance and I postponed to next year but we are getting courthouse married on our wedding day. Then next year we will have a vow renewal. We are better now than we have been for the last few months. We have been having fun planning our small honeymoon getaway and we just bought a new bed! Upgrade! We are working together making a platform bed frame and it feels so good to be doing things together without the arguing about the wedding. You got this!

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That sounds like an amazing plan! Glad you two are handling it well.

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Yeah it's only been a week and I'm already starting to feel a lot better. Yes- I'm definitely planning on a bigger, better bachelorette party now.

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Very good point. I am grateful that we were able to postpone. I'm sorry you are stressed about your October wedding. I'm sure it will still be a wonderful day despite any social distancing requirements you need to follow.

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Yes humor has certainly been helping I hope you have success in postponing your wedding. We were able to move all vendors over to the new date except for our photographer.