Postpone Wedding Date?

I have not gone through this but I think its smart to push back the wedding and I think all you can do is support your FH in this process and help him with whatever he needs. I'm sure he is very upset about the situation as well and just wants to make things right and to marry you.

I completely agree with Jessica

My first step would be to go talk to an attorney. The attorney would be able to give you a better idea of how long it may take. If there are no kids involved, it shouldn't be a difficult case. With just over a year until your wedding you may still have time to plan and stay on budget. I wouldn't do save the dates though if possible in case the wedding does need to be postponed.

I am so sorry you are dealing with this! Luckily your wedding is far away enough that you probably haven't made any arrangements that can't be changed yet, right? Maybe just put wedding stuff on the backburner for now, focus on talking to an attorney and getting his divorce. After that, then you can reevaluate and decide when is best to get married!

I would delay planning until he is legally divorced.

I'm so sorry you and FH are being affected by this.

Hoping everything works out

I went through this situation. My ex and I had not lived together for 5 years when I filed for divorce. It took another year to get him to sign the papers. My now husband and I agreed to wait until the divorce went through before any wedding planning. It caused less stress. I hope it go through quicker for you.

My mom went through this with my dad, several court appearances later, they were finally divorced. I hope it goes through more quickly for you. I would either push back your wedding, or see if your vendors allow you to move back to another available date (a lot of mine do) and then wait to send invites until you know for sure it's settled. So sorry you're going through this.

Luckily my proposed nearly 2 years after my divorce was finalized. But there was a time when it felt like it would never be over.

I personally wouldn't make any real plans until you have that divorce finalized. It's going to put a damper on both of your excitement if you have that divorce hanging over your head. Honestly, just me worrying about my NJ divorce paperwork being accepted in Canada for the marriage license put a bit of damper on our planning. It was always at the back of mind. So I can't imagine what not even having that divorce finalized would do to my brain if I was trying to plan a wedding at the same time.

I know it stinks to have to wait, but I think if you do, it will make your wedding planning experience that much better. You could always elope after the divorce is finalized if you don't want to wait then plan a reception for later?

So sorry for this sticky situation you and your FH are in. Although June 2020 is over a year away, I'm sure you'll have a ton of planning to do (I know I utilized our entire 18 month engagement to plan plan plan), so if something happens with the ex-wife to ruin your wedding day after so much planning, that would just be awful; especially with any non-refundable deposits at that point.

So, in an effort to not waste time or money with wedding planning, I say go ahead and postpone! It will probably give you both peace of mind to have that extra time for her to get her shiz together.