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Devoted March 2021

Postpone....twice?!?

on May 13, 2020 at 10:24 PM Posted in Community Conversations 1 26

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What an emotional roller coaster this pandemic has been for all of us 2020 brides!! If there’s anywhere to come to express emotions/frustrations/concerns/questions....etc. this is the place, right?!

I’ve reached a depressing realization that our wedding may have to be postponed AGAIN.... 😢 We were supposed to be married on March 27, and a week beforehand, our venue called to break the bad news that we would have to postpone. She offered me her first available date of June 19....the day I received the news, I called every single vendor and got our date switched and although I was disappointed, I was grateful to have a new date and vendors all on board. We were able to get our honeymoon rebooked as well. Well....now we are just over a month away from our new date and things are not looking good.....I finally emailed my venue to ask if there is any information they could give me, so there’s a little thread of optimism that I’m holding onto...but there’s a high chance we will have to postpone for the second time.
Rather than dealing with the anticipation, disappointment and pain associated with coming so close and having to reschedule at any point in 2020, we have decided that if this date doesn’t work out, we will push our date to next year. Who would have thought this would happen to the world....who would have thought it would last this long?! I’m sad and upset that all of our weddings are being impacted by this. And I feel terrible for all of the vendors who are losing so much business from all of this!! It’s truly a disaster!
I can’t wait for this to be behind us all and to hear all of the beautiful wedding stories from fellow brides! Praying for peace, positivity and so much love on your new wedding dates!!

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Dedicated March 2021
· on May 14, 2020 at 9:08 AM
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I feel you, we were supposed to get married in October this year, but it’s not looking well right now. Especially with my family spread out and this pandemic is causing all of these stay at home orders to extend in some states! I’m hoping I don’t have to push it to next year..but we’ll have to see. I’m waiting it out until about July/August to find out. 😭😭
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Devoted August 2020
Elle · on May 14, 2020 at 10:13 AM
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I'm so sorry. I really feel for those who were literally a week away from getting married. I know at least 2 brides who had to postpone from May to August (my month), and we don't even know if August is happening! Augh.
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Devoted July 2020
Karen · on May 14, 2020 at 10:22 AM
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We were supposed to get married in April and we ended up having to postpone it until August 22. I am freaking out because I see soo many August, September and even December brides postponing for next year and I'm scared we might have to postpone again. In our case we have decided to get married in August even if its just us and our parents, however we would have to postpone our big wedding until 2022 because I would be moving with him to Montana and will be starting a 12 month nursing program January 2021. I just don't think we need to have a big wedding after being married for over a year but then again I would hate to lose all the money we've put into this wedding 💔😭
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Dedicated August 2020
Shveta · on May 14, 2020 at 11:53 AM
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I'm with you there! Originally we were May 16th, and then moved it to August 30th (which to be honest I had a feeling we would have to change it). So changing the date was what I was expecting, and then out of the blue our venue calls us earlier this week and they said they are cancelling all events for this year and 2021. It took a year just to find the venue that was a good fit with what we wanted and our budget. Now, we have no venue either. I've contacted other venues but most of them have minimum guest counts of 100, and my wedding is 50 and under. Absolutely horrible. SO, I think (we'll see what happens), but I think I'm set on 2022, and then having a child before the wedding since I don't want to be pregnant at my wedding. Our entire family planning is completed messed up right now. We can't wait much longer, but can't start trying to have kids now either because I lost my job so ideally we wait another year before trying... got to throw a wedding in there somewhere...? LIFE. To be honest, what's new? The world keeps spinning and we're just along for the ride. I say stay positive and move forward as you must. Don't stress because that's not going to help or change the situation for the better. Let's live happy even when it's all erratic.
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Devoted April 2020
Renay · on May 14, 2020 at 4:53 PM
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Same boat! We got married in a private ceremony on our original date (4/25/20), but postponed the big wedding to June 2th... At this point it doesn't look like groups over 10 will be allowed until August or so and even then only 50 or under. It is heartbreaking, and I had a complete meltdown. I fell apart to DH and questioned if we should even bother rescheduling again... We are, but not until we KNOW things are going to go through. I am so sorry you have to go through this, too.
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Devoted November 2021
Maureen · on May 14, 2020 at 4:57 PM
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Girl my sister is in the SAME BOAT. She went from 3/28, to 5/23 to 1/30/21. She is still going with the plan of 5/23, just having 10 people at the church, she and her fiancé just want to be married! Big party and “vow renewing” will be in January next year!

And another kicker is, MY fiancé and I are supposed to get married in October 2020! So to say my poor mother is stressed with 2 covid brides is a story in itself. We’ll see how these next few months pans out for my original date!
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Devoted March 2021
· on May 14, 2020 at 8:57 PM
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Oh my goodness!!!! What a terrible situation! I’m so sorry that you and your sister are both in this terrible situation!! We did go ahead and reschedule for next Spring. I think I knew in my heart when I wrote this last night....I just had to face my fears today, but I know it’s for the best. Good luck to you both!! 💞
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Devoted March 2021
· on May 14, 2020 at 8:59 PM
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I think that’s a good plan to wait it out a little longer...we only have 35 days til ours so I knew we needed to make a decision soon. I hope you guys can sit down and have a good talk about what’s realistic for you two and do what you feel is best! I’m sorry you’re in this situation, but it will get better!
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Devoted March 2021
· on May 14, 2020 at 9:03 PM
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It’s one of the worst feelings. I cried immediately when I got the call a week before our original date. I actually ended up taking the rest of the day off and when I got home, we both cried together. He was so sad to see me so sad...then our day care and went and we made it special together....but it was hard to get excited for our new date because I was so afraid of being disappointed again....guarded...afraid...not good emotions to feel in regards to your wedding date. I contacted all of my vendors today and we have postponed til next spring. One year and one day from our original date....but I feel that a weight has been lifted and I’m actually really excited to have more time to get excited again! And...get the videographer that we couldn’t afford this year!!! 😁
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Devoted March 2021
· on May 14, 2020 at 9:08 PM
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Awwww I’m so sorry to hear about your situation! That is really sad! But you never know!! Things really could be different by then!! We were only a week away from our original date when they told us we had to postpone our original date, and 35 days away from this second date. At this point, you have time and it sounds like you have a beautiful future ahead of you guys. Do what you feel is best, even if it’s not what you had planned....everything will work out and 2022 does have a ring to it!! In the grand scheme of things and what you have planned between now and then...it will fly by and you’ll need time to focus and save up for your big day! Hugs
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Devoted March 2021
· on May 14, 2020 at 9:13 PM
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Ohhhhh girrrrrlllll!!!! 😫😫 this whole situation has taught me that there are few things that are actually in our control! We can plan all we want, but it seems that there’s always something unexpected that comes up to change it. You just have to roll with it, adjust to it and keep on moving. However your life plan works out, I hope it’s even better than you expected and can find the beauty in all of this.
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Devoted March 2021
· on May 14, 2020 at 9:18 PM
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I’m really glad that you two honored your wedding date. You two are a unit whether you had everything you wanted on that day or not. Now that you two are legally married, it’s so important that you remember that you are a team and can get through anything together. This is just the first of many (hopefully not too many) bumps in the road and whether you get to celebrate with your friends and families next month, next year or in 2 years....keeping a strong connection together is what’s really important. You will get your day!
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Super September 2026
Laura · on May 14, 2020 at 9:35 PM
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Me too... June 27th ... then moved to August 7th... and now June 19, 2021. We're planning a ceremony just for us and our kids (in September).

If 2021 doesn't happen... We are NOT rescheduling. So, in September, I'm wearing "the dress" and our sons will be in tuxes. Fancy flowers. Photographer. The works. All for 5 people present.
I didn't want to take the chance there's no big wedding and the dress stays in the closet for decades.
Sigh.
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Dedicated August 2020
Shveta · on May 14, 2020 at 10:40 PM
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Thank you for your kind words. It really put a smile on my heart. I wish the best for you and everyone.
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Devoted March 2021
· on May 14, 2020 at 10:48 PM
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Out of all of those dates, is there something special about September?
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Devoted November 2021
Maureen · on May 14, 2020 at 11:02 PM
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Thank you! We are very excited for her next week even though it’s just immediate family, can’t wait for whole family to celebrate come January next year! Good luck with you!
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Devoted March 2021
· on May 14, 2020 at 11:10 PM
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Aww she’s lucky to have such a supportive family! I hope her day is beautiful and January is even better! And Good vibes to you in October!!
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Super September 2026
Laura · on May 14, 2020 at 11:39 PM
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Yes. It's closest to when he proposed!
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Jill · on May 15, 2020 at 12:12 AM
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My daughter asked me to be her planner/coordinator over a year ago. So, I put my heart and soul into planning her June wedding (every step approved by her along the way) . By the end of March we knew we had to postpone and I think I had more of a meltdown than she did. We postponed until August in CA. WHO just put out today that we probably won't see normal for at least 5 years, so we will not postpone again and will go along with whatever is allowed in August. She didn't want to wait a year thinking social distancing/masks could still be mandated. So now we're thinking of a small ceremony on her new wedding date (Aug. 1st) for family and with zoom for out of towners and then a "drive by reception" at the house on Aug. 2 (still in wedding wear) for local friends to throw out rice or petals and serve them cake or something. It's certainly not the original vision I had when I planned for my daughter to walk down the aisle...
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Just Said Yes June 2022
Becky · on May 15, 2020 at 12:25 AM
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Thank you for posting! I am in the same situation!! We are getting married now for insurance reasons and then having the formal ceremony and reception with guests next year!!
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