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Postpone September 2021 Wedding?

Delaney, on January 19, 2021 at 6:12 PM Posted in Planning 1 21
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My wedding is supposed to be September 18, 2021. But with covid still happening and it looking like stuff is not going to get better in the next 8 months I am contemplating postponing to next year. With the 50 guest limit (including ourselves) and no dancing, it just doesn’t feel like it will be my dream wedding. I want to make a decision soon, so what would you do if you were in my shoes? The really only downside to postponing is that it won’t be the same date (although there is no real special meaning) and just some disappointment. But I would rather have my dream wedding and wait a year than I would settle.

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Latest activity by Lizzie, on January 21, 2021 at 11:19 AM
  • Sam
    Devoted October 2021
    Sam ·
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    Hi Delaney!


    I’m getting married 10/2/2021, my fiancé and I are 100% getting married on this day whether restrictions get lifted or not. We are planning on having about 80 people. Unfortunately, we do not things will be going back to where things were prior to COVID, at least not for a while. We are bummed that there is a current “no dancing restriction” besides first dances, we are hoping by October that ban maybe lifted. At the end of the thing we will make things work. COVID is not stopping us 😊 Goodluck !
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  • Katie
    Rockstar August 2020
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    Hi Delaney! Something to consider is how many vendors you already have in place. If you booked most or all, it maybe worth waiting to see what the next 3 months look like before you go to the trouble of postponing. You may want to ask yourself, if things opened quite a bit by summer, would you be disappointed if you moved the wedding to next year? I know, it’s a really tough decision. Good luck on the decision and let us know how you make out ❤️
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  • Meghan
    Expert September 2021
    Meghan ·
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    Hey! I’m getting married 9/19/21 in NJ and waiting to see how things go with the vaccines being given. I’ve been looking at my venues reviews during covid and they’ve been positive. They have an outdoor set up now, but don’t think dancing is allowed. Our contract is for 175 so we may postpone if we can’t get money back for the difference in how many people were allowed to have. We just ordered our save the dates and am a little hesitant to send but trying to keep planning as normal until we get closer (and still talking about covid alternatives with vendors).
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar April 2021
    Michelle ·
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    I wouldn’t make any decisions right now. So much can change in the next couple of months.
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  • A
    Super December 2020
    Anais ·
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    A lot can change in the next few months, but I will say this depends on where you live and what restrictions, if any, you are ok with.
    For example if you live in a state that has been strict on mask since the beginning (like California) I would still think there’s a potential that masks are required until the end of the year. Bigger groups and dancing might be allowed but masks still required. Would you be ok with that?
    If you want 0 restrictions and live in a state that do enforce restrictions, you will have a better chance with 0 restrictions next year.If you’re ok with some restrictions and ok to wait until April/May to decide then it would be fine to do so. It’s so hard to tell what things will be like in Septemver
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  • D
    Beginner September 2022
    Delaney ·
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    We are having a smallish wedding (around 100 people) but the reception is inside. My thing is that I don’t want to continue planning and personalizing everything and then have to switch last minute. Also, I love dancing so the fact that there is restrictions is enough to make me want to move the date regardless. I know that its about who you marry not the wedding, but I am willing to wait so I can have the wedding I always imagined. We had a 2 year engagement planned already, so whats another year.
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  • D
    Beginner September 2022
    Delaney ·
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    Im big on planning far in advance so waiting to see what will happen until almost the last minute gives me anxiety lol. I just don’t want to continue planning and ordering stuff with the date on them and then waste our money if restrictions don’t lighten up.
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  • Michelle
    Devoted April 2021
    Michelle ·
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    I'm getting married in April and we will be getting married whether there are 150 people or 40. So much work has went into this day and as long as my family is there, that's what I need. I would wait a few months before you make any decisions
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  • Mrs. Spring
    Master April 2021
    Mrs. Spring ·
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    If it's genuinely your dream then postpone it.
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  • Chrysta
    Master November 2022
    Chrysta ·
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    Girl, it sounds like you already have your answer! If you do not want to deal with the uncertainty, and you have no problems waiting another year, then I would definitely say to just postpone. I am of the same mindset- sure, the endgame is marrying your partner.. but we want to have a blast celebrating it with our family and friends! It is one of the most important moments of our lives, and we do not want to settle for a social distanced wedding where everyone is in masks, and we cannot hug our loved ones or dance! We want everyone to feel safe, let loose, and have fun! We have just postponed our wedding for the second time, this time to the end of 2022. Yes it’s a bummer we will have to wait ANOTHER year (ugh!), but for us the end result is worth it. Plus, the sooner you reschedule, the more likely you will be able to secure a date that all your vendors are available in 2022 (they are filling up quickly!)
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  • Ane
    Dedicated August 2022
    Ane ·
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    Completely agree with Chrysta! We postponed our August 2021 wedding in NYC to August 2022 back in September. At first it was disappointing to add more time and let go of our date, but it just made so much more sense to postpone early. We don’t have to continue to stress about the uncertainty and we were able to move our vendors pretty easily. Things will probably be better this summer, but not good enough to have a large wedding with dancing, hugging, and mingling. I want our wedding to be a joyous celebration without the fear or the worry or the distance, so we are willing to wait.
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  • D
    Beginner September 2022
    Delaney ·
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    Yes! I made up my mind and I am going to contact the venue and try to see what dates for next year are available! Then go through the hassle of switching vendors (totally not looking forward to!)
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    Beginner September 2022
    Delaney ·
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    Exactly! I want my wedding to be a lot of fun with our family and friends! This way we can actually go on our honeymoon too because we didn’t want to plan one with the pandemic!
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  • Shirley
    Expert November 2020
    Shirley ·
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    Once we vaccinate the at-risk populations, I think you'll be surprised how quickly things go back to normal. I say keep the date. I'm planning a celebration in October and am not worried (and I'm very cautious about the pandemic)
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  • Chrysta
    Master November 2022
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    Keeping my fingers crossed for ya! We just made the decision to reschedule again last week. I emailed all my vendors late that night, and by the end of the next day we had all but 2 rescheduled already! The final 2 got ahold of me yesterday. Everyone was incredibly understanding and sympathetic, and not one of them charged us anything to reschedule!
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  • J
    Expert May 2021
    Jaime ·
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    We postponed from last July to this May. We decided we are moving ahead with it in whatever way we can. Currently there is a 25% capacity limit (75 people) and all must be seated through the event and then there is no dance floor. Not sure if things will change by May, but we are changing it up a little bit and hiring dueling pianos for the music and entertainment. We figure they are fun to watch and people can do that sitting, and if the regulations loosen up, we can switch to having a dance floor while they play. I happen to love dueling pianos, but this whole things isn't what I envisioned for the day - we simply just want to make the best of it and move on.

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  • Jamie
    Savvy October 2021
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    I understand your frustration. I am getting married in October in PA. I just visited my venue and was able to ask a lot of what of questions which eased my mind a lot. Dancing is big for me so thankfully that was not an issue with my venue. They also said they wouldn't be mask police by making my guests feel uncomfortable and telling to keep their masks on. I'm an essential worker and take the virus seriously but I also plan to hold out a few more months before I make a major decision on of we should postpone or go forward with whatever restrictions are in place. Good luck!
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  • D
    Beginner September 2022
    Delaney ·
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    UPDATE: I contacted our venue and they only had 1 Saturday available for next fall (its the same weekend that we were originally getting married!) So I officially postponed our wedding because I didn’t want to risk not getting a Saturday next year. Now to contact all our other vendors!
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  • Chrysta
    Master November 2022
    Chrysta ·
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    That’s amazing your date was the only weekend they had left! Talk about meant to be! Congrats girl!
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  • Ane
    Dedicated August 2022
    Ane ·
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    Yes, yes! That was true for us too. We want to hopefully go on a ~2 week international honeymoon right after the wedding and that was also pretty impossible to plan right now. We also thought about the pre-wedding journey! I had to cancel our food tasting and didn’t go dress shopping as planned this past summer because I really want my mom and grandma there for those moments. We also didn’t want to give up the bachelorette/bachelor trips and other fun events. Glad you were able to lock in a new date! Best wishes!
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