Postpone Reception

I was thinking the same, but you would be surprised how many people want to celebrate with you. In the last 24 hours my bachelorette weekend, bridal shower, and wedding have been postponed until further notice 🥺
I haven’t counted down the last 400+ days for nothing so we’re still getting married but we’re planning on having our reception at a later date and doing the bach party and the bridal shower at a different date as well. I wouldn’t even bother with these two events typically but they were both supposed to be this weekend and everyone else is more bummed about it than I am

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Thanks Maggie I hope all goes well for you

I totally understand how you feel. This is the 3rd time we've planned a wedding and had to cancel 2 of them completely. This time we're deciding to stick with our ceremony of 30 guests and do dinner or something afterward since we had to cancel our big reception. I just recently got laid off from my job so there's that. It's just been pretty stressful all around and I'm just hoping it all goes away soon.

I was a negative thinking bride for awhile! We were civilly married with only about 10 people in attendance. I felt selfish for wanting to have a real wedding again later, in church, with family. But the thing is that people do want to celebrate you!!! They want to be there for you the same way you would want to be there on their big day..our families have been awesome with support and excitement. As long as it's special and means something to you, everyone else will feel it too!

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Thanks Rachel

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I hope it gets better for you too!

View Quoted Comment Thank you!

People TOTALLY want to celebrate with you ! Especially if they didn’t get to before

Analie, Those who love you and are excited for you will show up whenever you put on that dress, even if it's much later than the date you actually get married. They will not be laughing at you, but cheering you on. No friend would want you to have to give up you "wedding dreams". If you have a guest list of 250 people, you are very well liked and even if some people can't make it others will. My daughter's bachelorette was supposed to be in Turks and Caicos this past weekend and on Friday morning, my daughter decided to cancel it, as it is not a great time to travel and she said that even if they went, they would be too stressed to enjoy it (what if you accidentally drink from a friend's glass who ends up being a carrier?). So the other night, her sister arranged that the entire group that was going (9 of them), was on a group facetime chat and my daughter walked out on the deck to see all of her friends' faces and my other daughter had brought home the gifts from the group and they all got to see her open them (and try on some lingerie over her clothing-lol!) by watching online - it was extremely moving. A friend's daughter, who cancelled her wedding is stillg etting married on her April date, and has shifted the wedding to their one year anniversary- and she is planning to wear the dress! Your friends care about you and with enough notice they will be there when you want them to be. I think they will appreciate that you care enough about them to consider their well-being. That being said, I think you still have some time to make your decision, if the venue and vendors are willing to be flexible. Although this all seems overwhelming right now, you actually know what is most important - and you are going to spend the rest of you life with the man that you love. Things will work out, just try to think about other things for the next 2-3 weeks (I know it's not easy for me) and then make your decision - and stay safe.

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Thank you for this Mindy. My fiancé also said to hold off on making any decisions as the invitations were sent out and we still have a while to go. That’s very thoughtful that her friends were able to pull this off. Much luck to you guys in the future!

View Quoted Comment Please let me know what you decide to do, Analie. Right now we are holding a date at the same venue for October (along with the May date). I asked for the “right of first refusal”, which means if someone else wants the new date we will have to decide immediately if we want to commit. My daughter and her fiancé are thinking of having a civil ceremony on the beach with just their immediate families in attendance on the original date and then holding the party in Oct. with a short maybe- religious ceremony, so she can still get to walk down the aisle in her dress. Every bride deserves that- even if it’s after the fact!! And I promise you those in attendance will share in the joy! Good luck with everything!