Postpone or change the venue?!

I wouldn't push my date another year for a venue, but that's just me! The venue will be special regardless because it's where you're getting married. I say keep your date and save the money

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I agree. We had to compromise a lot on our venue because of budget but we definitely wouldn't want to push the wedding another year.

View Quoted Comment I agree with this 100%!

I agree, if it were me I would just change the venue and keep the date. As long as you still like the new venue and can picture yourselves there, you can always get décor and other things to make you love it even more. I feel like it's common to have to compromise on the venue for a budget.

I had my heart set on our venue, which is why we have a longer engagement. We took the time to save for it because the photos anywhere else just wouldn't be the same. That's just us though. If your date is more important to you than you venue, I say go for it.

I wouldn’t push back my wedding just for a venue, but I think it depends on your priorities.

It really depends how important the venue really is. For FH and I our venue was super important to us because we met there. He's going to be 30 this year and I'll be 29 so we'd like to be married for a year before having children so if we couldn't get our venue I would have waited at this point then gotten married and started trying for children right away instead.

I ended up change my date for a venue. I DID NOT want to do this, and would not budge but when I found the place I loved, the date flew out the window. I would say shop around and you may be more open to change and it'll help you two decide.

Have you considered a small court house ceremony for the date you’re set on and then doing a vow renewal in a few years at your dream venue? It’s up to you and your FH probably would rather wait than change the venue because guys have different timelines than women when it comes to this. If you show him you’ll be happy at the other venue he’ll be okay with whatever you decide

This is a personal choice you will have to make. Which is more important to you & your FH: 1) having dream venue at a later date, or 2) settling on venue in order to be married sooner.

I wouldn't push the wedding back as PPs said. You are a homeowner now and things can go wrong. That wedding fund will then need to be used for an unexpected broken pipe or issues that will come as you live in your new home.

What happens then push the wedding back further so you can start saving again?

I recommend keeping the date and changing the venue to save money.

I don't think I would postpone for a venue. If I could keep my same date somewhere else, that's what I would do. It's the people that matter most, to me at least, not the place.

I had my heart set on this particular venue and when we thought about a budget it was over $40k which would take us more time to save up without being homeless. We will be engaged 2.5 years but we live together we pay bills together so it already feels like we’re married so waiting longer and getting everything we wanted without cost being an issue didn’t seem like a bad idea.

I would wait another year, but that’s me. I recommend everyone to not go into debt for a wedding.

I think you should change venue. We love our venue, but it's not the perfect vision i had (i originally wanted Barn and they're hella expensive...and like for what) I wouldn't want to wait another year just for the perfect venue. Because also consider, you're delaying your wedding to save more money to afford this venue, but is there something else you could spend that valuable money on in the first year of your marriage. Like an anniversary trip or something? idk im very frugal so wherever I can save money I will because a wedding is one day of memories. that money might be better used for a vacation/home renovation or something.

Definitly personal choice of what is more important to you.
I would for sure change a date for my dream venue, if the venue is not available on my preferred date for example. But I would not push the wedding for a whole year, in order to save money to be able to afford that venue. I don’t think it’s financially smart to go in debt for a wedding or to have to save for a long time just to afford a venue, because to me that means the venue is above your budget.
You can have absolutely beautiful & special wedding on many different budgets & at many different venues.

I would not wait in a venue. My dream venue was booked for 18 months, but I would rather be married than wait. We are 30 and want to wait a year before beginning to start trying to have kids. It worked out, because our venue that we selected will be more bang for our book and allow us to have everyone we want