Postpone a 2nd time?

I've seen other brides talk about moving forward with their 2020 wedding after having to postpone one or more times. Plus with only 2 months left to go, I'm sure all your guests have already shifted and made plans to come celebrate with you. If you're not being forced to postpone/cancel, I'd just stick it out as planned but it's totally up to you. I would personally rather deal with taking the necessary precautions and deviate from the stress of having to deal with a new date again. Definitely get in touch with your venue and see what your options are with them. Maybe that will help you decide. Good luck!

1000% reach out to the venue and see what changes you would need to make to hold your October 2020 event and then talk to your future spouse and decide what matters the most.


Depending on your contract you may have a force majeure clause that should help you modify or cancel due to no fault of either party. It is terribly difficult and there is no "winning." I posted a back and married <bam> post about some things we changed to have a covid-wedding.
Good luck!

I would be worried that your venue won't be able to allow that large of a gathering, even in states that are partially reopening, with all of the Covid restrictions in place. Check with them to see what you need to do to go forward. If most of your guests have made their plans, and want to attend, then I would go for it!!

I'll tell you from our experience, a lot of vendors will charge you change/cancel fees for a 2nd postponement. They have to protect as much of their business/income as they can, and a couple of ours postponed our date the first time for free, even though they probably weren't going to be able to book anything else that day (covid). But when we needed to push it out a second time, we had to pay all new deposits and sign new contracts. Not with all vendors, but a few.

Are you still planning to have 500 people?!? If you are, I'm very concerned about this even if you're not. If you've significantly scaled back your guest list or would be willing to and you take other precautions to reduce the risk of COVID transmission, depending on where you live, it might be okay to go ahead with your plans for October. We have only postponed once, so I don't have specific advice as it relates to dealing with your venue a second time, but I think it's definitely worth having a conversation with them about how to move forward. There's a chance that they'll be happy to let you to postpone an event that large because they won't want to lose the money they'd get from a 500 person wedding, but they also be afraid of being held liable if people were to become infected.

I've postponed a few times. I'd not do a 500 person wedding right now under any circumstance. I'm sorry.

I say move forward with October and enjoy... especially since the date is so close. Plus I feel like one postponement during this crazy mess is enough. Otherwise you’ll constantly be chasing a dream and prolonging the stress... twice. In June we postponed our 10/10/20 wedding to 10/39/21, but that’s it! Whoever comes next year is who we’re celebrating with. Whoever misses the wedding can celebrate at our costume anniversary party 🎉 😆. Best wishes with your decision!

Oh. Forgot to add.... I’d only move forward with a much less guest count..... much less.

With 500 guests, I would absolutely cancel/postpone, or just cut your guest list down to immediate family and close friends only.

I kept my second date but I’m ok with having a smaller wedding I’m ready to be the Mrs to my Mr lol. Do what you feel is right follow your gut!

Your venue or others should not charge you any fee since it was out of your control. Maybe you should make it for next year, because by then you can have your big wedding. Having any wedding for the rest of the year with a large crowds, I dont think its a good idea and the venue wouldn't not allow it.

I think it depends on how close you are to the 500 people. If all of these people absolutely must see you get married then I would just postpone. Depending on where you are you might need to postpone a full year or more to have that large of a gathering just to be safe. If you are able to go on with your wedding and fine cutting your list to ~100 or less then I would say go on with your wedding as planned in October with the reduced list. It all depends on your state’s restrictions and how willing you are to reduce your list. If you do postpone the big reception you could still get married and do a small ceremony in October so you’re not also postponing your marriage

We went from 04/09/20 to 08/27/20 to 04/01/21.

I'd contact your venue right away about getting a new date set in place. I don't see any way that hosting a 500-person wedding in October will even be legal...Another option would be to drastically cut your guest list, but I'd probably just postpone if I were in your position

I would knock one of the zeros off that 500 guest count and make it 50 then move forward.

My opinion is to move forward with your plans & have the option to live stream the wedding if guests are not comfortable. I don’t think the virus is going anywhere anytime soon. Unfortunately, within the next couple years, I don’t think there will ever be a perfect time to have a large event. Leave it up to your guests to decide to celebrate virtually or in person 🤷🏼‍♀️

Just called my venue to postpone our December 20th wedding to Dec 19 of next year. We are in Florida and all our guests are from up north and multiple countries (is EVERYONE has to get on a plane) and multiple people told me they are not getting on a plane in 3 months. We are already legally married but it obviously sucks balls to have to do this again. I’ve honestly become so numb to wedding stuff sadly.