Posting Wedding Registry On Facebook

View Quoted Comment Exactly. Someone emails or texts or says in person/on the phone “Do you have a registry? I know I’m not invited to the wedding but I’d loved to send a gift!” And you reply “That is so generous of you! We’re registered at (insert store name or link).”


There is zero reason to broadcast it out on Facebook to people who haven’t asked. If people are dying to give you a gift without being invited to your wedding, they’ll Google for a registry, ask you or send you something of their choosing.

I don't understand why you would even want to post this on Facebook for all of your Facebook friends to see, unless your only Facebook friends are people you would have invited to your wedding if COVID weren't a factor.

People who love you will want to give you gifts. Those people will ask about your registry or just send you something. For anyone who asks, whether they would have been invited or not, that is the perfect chance to share your registry link with them. For everyone who doesn't ask (that is, I would assume, the majority of your Facebook friends list), your registry information is irrelevant.

View Quoted Comment Maybe you have random people on your Facebook, but on my Facebook I’ve cut out those who I am not close with and only have close family and friends.
I am not concerned with getting gifts. The website that I have the registry and our story and the link to our possible livestream is all on the knot. It’s something I want to share. There are no rules of what you cannot post something related to your wedding.

And also my post asked for suggestions of ideas of wording to post on Facebook. Not asking if I should or wouldn’t.

View Quoted Comment You're specific question was about the registry and people wanting to help you out, so it's not wild for us to interpret your posting as being about gifts.


Actual close friends and family will ask for your registry. You can also send those people the livestream individually. Even if your Facebook is just close friends and family, doing any of this on social media is just incredibly rude and honestly hurtful to these individuals. They want to take the time to watch your livestream and get you a gift, at least take the time to send an email or a Paperless Post invite or a text.

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OK. Then I suggest posting your site with, "Please check out this link. We aren't concerned about getting gifts but we wanted you to read our story."

I'm not sure why this topic makes people so angry haha. I say, if you think that it works for you do it! Who cares about what people think. I am getting married this August and my fiancé and I went through the same struggle at first. Ultimately, we decided to go for it. It's a suggestion, you aren't making anyone buy anything. We went with something simple along the line of I and so and so have decided to create a honeymoon fund. We would appreciate anything you are willing to offer and thank you either way for reading this over yada yada. With the pandemic you just can't have everyone there and we also have a huge family. We've also paid for our wedding by ourselves with no help so we thought even if we ended up raising no money it was worth a try. It would be more taxing for us to send it individually. Wishing you the best of luck and such a happy celebration!!

View Quoted Comment 😂😂 I know right! All the comments came at me all at once and I’m like WHAT DID I DO! 😂😂
But thank you for your kind words! Thank you so much!

I knew when I saw the topic that this would get heated quick. Sorry to hear you have gotten your advice slammed in the past on wedding forums.



A private FB Group was my initial thought as well but then I saw that you have very limited FB friends, only close friends and family. If you are inviting all of them to participate virtually then I would post the link to your wedding website (not specifically the registry) and include wording inviting everyone to celebrate virtually with you. If you only want to share with some of them I would go the FB group route.

As for language, you could say something to the effect of: "You are all cordially invited to attend the virtual livestream of my wedding to [FH's name] on xx/xx/xxxx at #:##p.m. Please go to our website to see our story, access the livestream, and see other information about the wedding. [website address]"

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I don't think it at all grabby and I am going to post mine. I am making the total amount and the givers names anonymous. I also added a note stating that gifts are not at all required as we recognize and appreciate what it will take for some guests to attend. If people are your real friends they won't be bothered. Either they will give or not. Facebook is a tool used by many for many reasons. Most often it is a collection of your closest friends and family. If they are perturbed by a wedding registry then they aren't close to you. Go for it! OXOXO

Could you put the registry on your wedding site and send a link to your wedding site out to friends and family who can’t make it?

Don’t post it to your main stream but you could create a group of people then post it on the group so you invite people into it and don’t just send it to everyone

I like reading about your thoughtful approach to sharing your wedding registry on Facebook from two years ago. Your consideration for your friends and family's support during those challenging times is truly touching.