Posting Wedding Registry On Facebook

There’s literally no good way to do this. Send your registry to those who ask for it.

There's really no polite way to do that. The best thing is to just tell people when they ask. So when a relative or friend asks where you are registered, it's perfectly fine to share the link or tell them you're registered at Macy's or whatever. Also, you can allow for you registries and website to be searchable, so they can just Google your name and find the info if they want to.

As Hannah mentioned, I would only share when someone asks. There’s really no way to post a registry on social media without coming off as looking for gifts.

View Quoted Comment So.... it’s considered rude to post it on Facebook?

View Quoted Comment Yes. As Sarah said above, it comes off as very gift grabby to post your registry on social media. Just thinking about it, have you seen people in your social circle do that before? Are people putting up their Amazon wishlists near their birthday every year? Handing someone a list of things you want automatically gives the assumption that you want them to purchase you a gift. If you post it on social media, that may be helpful for the handful of people who specifically asked for this information, but if you're putting it in your wall for all of your FB friends to see, they then, a reasonable person will believe you are hinting to everyone on your friends list to buy you a gift. Registry information doesn't even go on wedding invitations due to the same etiquette- you do not put out the expectation of gifts to people.

View Quoted Comment I think the general consensus is that publicly posting your registry on social media seems greedy and “gift grabby”. If someone specifically asks you for your registry you could send them a private FB message with the details

Posting to Facebook would definitely come off as rude to those who aren't invited to the wedding. It would seem like you're just looking for gifts. I would just send it individually to those who ask.

You mention that quite a few friends and family have asked to help out, so I'd simply provide them with your registry link directly!

It's considered pretty rude to post a link to your wedding registry on Facebook (it comes off as super gift-grabby). My suggestion would be: email your registry link to the specific people who asked for it and/or mentioned that they want to help you out.

I think its best to just send the registry to people who ask about gifts.
Putting it on Facebook just comes off as a gift grab.

I guess how I see it, I don’t see it as rude or poor wedding etiquette. Especially now during the pandemic. It’s sad but I have more people who respond to Facebook posts than I do with text messages. Yes it may appear as a gift grabby or gift wanting, but it’s not like I’m forcing them to buy a gift. Especially if I post my wedding website off of the Knot. I have our story on there, I also have a possible link to post for a live stream, and plus the registry with things that we are needing. Plus too I have seen a number of friends post for their wedding in their page. So I guess I’m not seeing the “rudeness” of it all.

Can you make a Facebook group for your wedding guests? Then you can post it there.

View Quoted Comment Oh that’s actually something I haven’t thought of yet. Thank you

The main reason it’s perceived so poorly is because under any circumstance, covid or not, you wouldn’t share your registry with people not invited to the wedding (unless they ask you for it). I ageee with PP about making a private fb group or inviting more people to attend virtually, then it isn’t as limited.

Word of mouth only. Do not post this on Facebook or any other social media or your invites.

This is a public forum, so you can't really dictate the responses you get. Don't post the registry on Facebook and provide it upon request instead. Also people can google registries if they want to find it.

View Quoted Comment Are you texting people your registry?

View Quoted Comment Ummm in the past I have posted and received very hateful messages. In one page I had several people tell me that my wedding ideas are dumb and stupid for having an intimate wedding. So me asking for no negativity or and for only pointed related suggestions is not that big of a deal ask on a platform.

If you have family and friends asking about your registry, then just tell them where you’re registered when the ask.

Well a former co-worker of mine posted the link to her wedding website on her Facebook wall and said something like “wedding website finally done, only x number of days”, and of course her registry is on the website along with their story, pics, etc. I’m not invited to her wedding but I didn’t feel like it was “gift grabby”, and I don’t think by posting it people will feel obligated to buy something if they weren’t intending on it. I just wouldn’t flat out post, here’s my registry.