Post-wedding anxiety and my family is so mad at me

My wedding happened recently. It went really, really badly. The ceremony was beautiful but it all went wrong from there. My dress was absolutely destroyed in the mud, it poured on me and my fiancé during photos (so now I’m soaking wet and muddy), my wedding planner who I paid $15k disappeared the entire night after trusting her for a year, half of our musicians cancelled, the food came out wrong, the band played all our do not plays, our first dance was wrong, etc. It was honestly one of the worst days of our lives. We are very in love but were quite depressed after.


However, my family is pretty mad at me now. We’re on our honeymoon and I keep getting these angry messages that I couldn’t suck it up and have a fun night. I tried SO hard. I talked to every single one of my guests and acted really positive and happy. No one knew I was upset besides my family. But I did spend a significant part of the night in the bathroom trying to ring out my dress, upset. They’re now mad because they put a lot of work into planning the wedding too and they feel like I ruined it.
I’m feeling so hurt. I tried as hard as I could to suck it up but thing after thing after thing went wrong. I did my best to be a good host and thought I could be real with those closest to me. I guess I messed up somewhere along the planning process, for it to go that bad (even though I poured my heart and soul into this wedding) but I feel like they’re angry because THEY didn’t have a good time. I’m alternating between outrage over that and guilt.
I guess I just need some honest opinions about the situation. Was I wrong to share my disappointment with them? Should I have done more to recognize the work they did and help them have a fun time? Are they being too harsh? I’m regretting ever having a wedding, obviously because it kind of sucked, but also because this never would have happened if I didn’t have it.