Post elopement

Then tell them no. I don't understand what the question is?

I get where you are coming from and ultimately the decision to throw a party when you get back is up to you. If you don't want to then don't do it. I also see where they are coming from though. When you chose Jamaica, did you guys ask his parents if they would be able to make it work financially? If not, I can understand them wanting some kind of celebration with you when you got back since they couldn't afford seeing the elopement in person.

I would stand your ground. Unfortunately, part of destination weddings means not everybody is able to come

Stand your ground. If they insist on having a party, tell them that they are more than welcome to plan one but you are not helping at all. Not financially, not with planning. Then they can tell you the date and time all you have to do is show up lol. That would be what I would do to "compromise"

I agree with Michaela, tell them you just wont have time to plan a party but they are more than welcome to throw you and your FH one when you get back.