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Post-elopement Party

Emily, on August 5, 2020 at 2:53 PM Posted in Planning 0 10

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Hello, I just need advice on how I should go about doing my post-elopement celebration.

I've decided to elope due of a couple of reasons:1. I don't like large crowds or being the center of attention. 2. I feel as if it would be more romantic, and I want this day to be special for us.
I'm not even sure about the exact details of the elopement yet, but my idea is to hire a videographer to document the whole wedding and then once we get the footage back I wanted to have a little "movie premiere" where everyone just comes and watches the video while we have snacks/ games/ etc.
But the issue is. . . Our family lives in different states. Do you think I should have 2 separate parties in the two different states or should I just have one party and invite everyone?
I would just feel really bad, eventhough it's expected,to have people not be able to come and celebrate with us.
What would you guys do?

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Latest activity by Yasmine, on September 2, 2020 at 8:04 AM

Master October 2020
Margaret · on August 5, 2020 at 2:56 PM
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Why not just host a reception for the family in a nice central location
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Lisa · on August 5, 2020 at 3:05 PM
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I think your idea sounds like a really fun way to celebrate your elopement! I agree with the previous comment - one reception in a central location would be a good idea! Otherwise, if you still wanted to keep the groups small, you could do two separate receptions, one in each of the two states. That way, you would still get to celebrate with everyone, they wouldn't have to travel, and you can keep the group size smaller. Things to keep in mind for this idea are: the cost would be higher to have two separate parties, and you would have to travel to both locations.
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Emily · on August 5, 2020 at 3:05 PM
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That may be a good idea! And I have thought about that But neither of our grandma's are able to travel. 🤔
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Margaret · on August 5, 2020 at 3:10 PM
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Then you do something special in advance with just them
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Emily · on August 5, 2020 at 3:16 PM
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Huh, for some reason it didn't even cross my mind that we would have to travel to both states. Lol thank you for pointing that out! I'm going to probably have to take a look at the costs before I really decide on what to do.
Thank you for your advice!
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Kristi · on August 7, 2020 at 1:54 PM
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That would be a lot to plan, I say you do as best you can to do a central location IF possible. If not, then you can't really keep everyone happy. But, I absolutely love your idea to have a movie premier.... I may have to somewhat steal that idea. We are eloping June 2021 and having a reception 2 weeks following our return.
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Emily · on August 8, 2020 at 11:40 AM
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Great idea! Thank you so much
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Emily · on August 8, 2020 at 11:43 AM
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Wow! Congratulations! 🖤
Yeah, I think a little movie premiere would be so much fun(:
And I don't know, I think I'll just have to get over the fact that I can't please everyone, I think that's what my biggest downfall is. Lol
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Jessica · on August 19, 2020 at 7:06 PM
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I went through this exact same deliberation. We had our hearts set on eloping, but my now husband wanted to celebrate with friends/family.
I'm from Seattle, where we currently live. He is from Michigan, where his family and many friends still live. We started out planning two parties, nothing too crazy but a level above a birthday party and quickly realized it was just too much work for us.
We decided to have just one party local to Seattle because it was so much easier to plan locally. Planning from afar was going to be a hassle, decor would have to be hauled cross country, some family wanted to attend both, etc. We combined the attendee lists (cutting out a handful of people as a result to stay in the cheaper attendee bracket). We knew some people wouldn't be able to make the trek, or even want to for a more casual party but it was worth saving our sanity.
That party ended up getting canceled due to COVID - it would have been this weekend!
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Yasmine · on September 2, 2020 at 8:04 AM
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I would probably do 2 separate ones or else you will be requiring everyone to travel. If they don't have a problem with it then go for 1!
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