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Expert December 2020

Post covid wedding guilt/fear

Kayse, on December 21, 2020 at 5:16 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 19
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I got married on Saturday. We had approximately 25 guests, all of whom wore masks while not eating/drinking. However, many of us were eating/drinking/talking in pretty close proximity. I literally can't sleep now because I'm so worried that someone is going to call me and tell me they've tested positive, and then I'll have to call all my other guests and ruin their Christmas. Of all my COVID concerns, I did not realize that I would be unable to sleep worrying about this. I def would have done things differently in hindsight. Any other COVID brides feeling this way?

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Latest activity by Katie, on December 23, 2020 at 9:17 AM
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    Savvy November 2020
    Margaret ·
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    We got tested after ours assuming we would have gotten it out of anyone since we had the most interaction with people. I think it gave us (and our guests!) peace of mind when it came back negative. We also had some of our guests voluntarily get tested and let us know just as a random sampling. Once the two week period passed, we felt much better knowing we were out of the “danger zone” and no one had tested positive. Our coordinator had to remind us again and again though, everyone was a consenting adult and knowingly took the risk. So I suppose if there’s any way to shift perspective so you can get some sleep again, everyone knew and was there to celebrate with you! And that’s wonderful!! They love and support you and your spouse and wanted to celebrate with you in person! Best of luck!
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  • Mrs. Spring
    Master April 2021
    Mrs. Spring ·
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    That is rough. It shows you're caring, so good for you.
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  • Katie
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    Katie Online ·
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    Hi Kayse!! Totally been there!! If it helps, we had over 100 guests at our wedding back in August, followed all regulations and then some. I was on pins and needles for 2 weeks. I worried for nothing- no one got covid and no bad calls came 👍 sounds like you followed all protocols so rest assured in that. I totally understand ❤️
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  • Kayse
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    Kayse ·
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    Thank you. I am pushing Christmas with my family until the two-week mark, and I will def feel better then. I'm so glad that you guy tested negative and everyone was safe!

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  • Kayse
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    Kayse ·
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    Thank you. I just want everyone to be okay at this point.

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  • Kayse
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    Kayse ·
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    That's great! Thank you for your support! I wish I would have thought to reschedule more than two weeks before Christmas, but I just didn't. Congratulations on your marriage!!

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  • Yasmine
    Rockstar October 2020
    Yasmine ·
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    I think it's normal feel that way. We had a minimony with 35 guests in October and I felt the same way. We recently just had my sons birthday party this past Saturday with about 17 people total and I was a little worried but I feel much better now.
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    Super December 2020
    Anais ·
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    We had 17 guests a little over 2 weeks ago and were very good at wearing masks, were outside the whole time and were very careful and I still had trouble sleeping worrying about this.
    Someone mentioned this already, what helped us multiple people got tested as they went back to their state or went back to work and they all tested negative.
    Maybe if you’re able to, get tested a week or so after your wedding and if it’s negative you should definitely feel a weight off your shoulders.
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  • Katie
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    Katie Online ·
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    You are welcome and thank you!! Isn’t being married great 😊
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    Devoted December 2020
    Rachel ·
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    I understand your concern. We had our wedding a little over 2 weeks ago, 35 guests and no one wore masks inside (wasn’t required by the venue). A lot of our guests, including us, spent a lot of time together the days leading up to the wedding. The only person i was concerned about was my grandmother, but we had a family discussion via FaceTime the week before to lay out expectations. The reality is that even if someone does test positive, it is not YOUR fault. Or anyone else’s fault. Everyone who attended understood the risks of attending, and hopefully none of your guests will lay the blame at your feet.


    Luckily, none of our guests got sick. I was slightly worried the week after, but because we had a prior discussion with family regarding our high risk attendant, it put my mind at ease on wedding weekend. Fingers crossed that your guest are in the clear!
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  • Meghan
    Rockstar October 2019
    Meghan ·
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    I know this is stressful. However, everyone who attended your wedding knew that being exposed to Covid was a possibility. Obviously it would suck if someone got it and you had to notify every other guests. But, in the end, if that happens, they shouldn't be taken off guard or upset. They made the adult decision to attend. I would try not to stress over it anymore.

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  • Kayse
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    Kayse ·
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    Thank you for the support and congratulations on your marriage!

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  • Kayse
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    Kayse ·
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    My parents are getting tested tomorrow, but even if they are positive I'm doubtful that it's due to the wedding as they left right after the ten-minute ceremony. I'm sure I'll still be blamed for it though.

    We are going to quarantine for two weeks, but getting tested is a good idea too. Thank you an congratulations on your wedding!

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  • Kayse
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    Kayse ·
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    Being married is way better than the whole planning a COVID wedding process, lol.

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  • Kayse
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    Kayse ·
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    I'm glad that everyone is okay. Hopefully none of my guests would blame me, but even though my brother opted not to come and my parents left right after the ceremony, I feel like he would blame me if my parents test positive.

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  • Kayse
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    Kayse ·
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    Very true. Thank you!

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  • Kari
    VIP May 2020
    Kari ·
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    Sorry you are feeling this way, but the fact that you are concerned and had such a small event makes me believe you've taken your wedding guests safety seriously. There isn't really anything you can do now but wait and see what happens, or request that all of your guests be tested at the 7 day mark just to ensure there are no positives among your group (typically if transmission occurred at your wedding it would show up as a positive PCR test by day 7). I would probably just keep being cautious as you are (monitoring for any symptoms and waiting 14 before gathering with anyone else). I hope you were able to enjoy your day, and hope that in another week or two you'll have the peace of mind that all of your guests are healthy and well.

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  • Kayse
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    Kayse ·
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    Thank you Kari. I'll feel better in about a week :-)

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  • Katie
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    Totally!! Lol 👍
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