Positive Family Members

Has Courtney think positive... I have had many dreams about my wedding and seeing people there and all I keep getting is negative comments saying things like you might not have one with all this Coronavirus crap! I said to them oh yes I am because God showed me way before it was even planned or thought of!! Be positive and get ready! We only live once so make the best of it 🥰

I don’t think you’re being negative, just realistic. A wedding is expensive and involves a lot of people and takes a lot of planning. Of course you hope things will go as planned but I don’t think it’s wise to pretend like nothing’s going on in the world right now. I think planning a small ceremony and vow renewal is actually the most positive thing you can do right now. You’re saying I’m still going to get married and I’m still going to celebrate. I know people who have completely canceled their weddings and are sitting around upset with no plans. I also know people who are still planning to have to their wedding and their family and wedding party are freaking out because they don’t feel safe to travel or be around that many people but they are scared to say no. I think you’re doing absolutely fine.

You're realistic, as PP said. i can also imagine the anxiety you're feeling because things are not very guaranteed at the moment. but have faith that even if you have to change plans, it's all at the end of the day, about your love with your partner

"Toxic positivity" is a thing and it's not remotely helpful. You are being realistic and that's a smart strategy. People who have plans B and C and are staying realistic are going to weather all these disappointments and changes so much better than the ones who will not listen to any reason and insist on only "being positive!!"

Keep on keeping on. You are approaching this in a very smart way!

I'm sorry, I agree that you're being very realistic and your family members may be too optimistic--it's good you're planning for back-ups. I'm in California, so take this with a grain of salt if you aren't, but I don't know any June weddings that are going ahead at this point. I also worry that, even if its legal, people will feel uncomfortable coming/you'd be uncomfortable during your whole wedding worrying about people's health. You're definitely being smart. While it's good to remain positive, it's not great to blindly push forward without considering alternatives.