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Stacey, on July 2, 2020 at 1:20 PM Posted in Planning 0 7
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My photographer spoke last night and she wants us to send her of list of must have photos. The photos I'm having a difficult time with are family photos. Below I have listed out our families. My fiance's parents have been separated for approximately ten years, but never officially divorced. However, his dad is engaged. My fiance has only met his dad's fiancee twice so he barely knows her. His dad is also estranged, from my fiance's half siblings, but his mom is close to them as she helped raise them. I don't want to make my fiance's half siblings comfortable so I'm not sure what family photos to request. My fiance said to make the list and he will review it when he gets home. As for my family, no one in my family including myself likes my sister's boyfriend. He has been a terrible influence in her life. We all really love my brother's wife though. I would like to include her in family photos, but I'm worried this will upset my sister if I don't include him. I was thinking possibly doing one photo with my parents, siblings and their significant others, one photo of my parents and my siblings, and one photo of my parents, siblings and my brother's wife that way I can have one without the boyfriend and one with the boyfriend. However, I'm not sure if my sister would question the photo of my parents, siblings and my brother's wife without her boyfriend. Side note: My brother got married back in January and my fiance and my sister's boyfriend weren't in any photos because my brother wanted to avoid the drama of not including my sister's boyfriend in photos. Any advice would be great.

Fiance's Family

Mom (single)

Dad and dad's fiancee (my fiance barely knows her)

Brother and brother's wife

Half brother, brother's wife and two children (flower girl & ring bearer)

Half sister and her husband

My Family

Mom and Dad (they are married)

Sister and her boyfriend (none of my family including myself like him)

Brother and his wife

Grandparents (mom's side)

Grandmother (dad's side)


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  • Dj Tanner
    June 2021
    Dj Tanner ·
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    My suggestion would be only have the people that you want in your photos together. Cut out the boyfriend and anyone else that you don’t want to see on your wall every day. Do you know roughly how many photos you’ll be getting from your photographer?
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  • S
    Dedicated July 2020
    Stacey ·
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    She asked us to provide no more than 15 must have photos, but our contract says we will receive 500+ edited photos.

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  • Mrs. S
    Super November 2019
    Mrs. S ·
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    I have a very complicated family complete with divorced and remarried grandparents, married and divorced stepparents and step siblings.
    I would do these combos of you and your fiancé with: his mom only, his dad only, his dad and fiancée, your parents only, siblings only with and without SOs, his mom plus the rest of the family (not his dad/fiancée), his dad and fiancée with the rest of the family (not his mom). Then if you wanted to have additional photos with certain people it’s ok but I think those are the minimum. I wouldn’t exclude the boyfriend just because you don’t like him...she’s never going to forget it if they do get married and he is her partner regardless of whether it’s a good decision or not. I definitely wouldn’t exclude his dad’s fiancée just because she’s new. She’s going to be part of your family now. Any photos you don’t like you don’t have to have printed, but this way everybody has a combo to put on their fridge. And you can’t go back later and redo them. I would have taken even more looking back.
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  • Chelsea G
    Devoted March 2021
    Chelsea G ·
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    I personally would not include the boyfriend in pictures other than maybe one picture of you and FH with sister and her boyfriend then do one separately w/ just your sister. I have so many family photos from past events where an ex is in it and its awkward to use or every display them. I would include sister's husband in photos since they are married and he is technically apart of the family.

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  • Marisa
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    Marisa Online ·
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    I don’t think “must have” photos include family. Family portraits are sort of a given. Like if you want a ring shot, specific photos of you and FH (specific poses, lighting, etc.) that would be important to know.

    Although the situation with the divorce is important to know and you will need to make decisions based on who gets photographed together (or not)

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  • S
    Dedicated July 2020
    Stacey ·
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    She asked us to include on the list what family groupings we want.

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  • Marisa
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    Gotcha! I always thought Family was just a given.

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