Popping the question to my bridesmaid on her birthday...is it rude?

I did it yesterday! She was my maid of honor, and my sister, and she loved it! but I plan on doing something cute for the rest of my bridesmaids too? If she instagrams it it may make your other bridesmaids a little bummed?

I don't think it's rude, but wouldn't everyone be talking about your wedding instead of her birthday..

And why do the other bridesmaids just get a card?

It's not a good idea to combine celebrations. Its her birthday and that's what is being celebrated that day. However, you could always simply pull her aside at the end, or plan to be the last guest to leave, and ask her personally and have it be just the two of you. Keep it simple and keep the attention on her.

What Anna said! She'd probably love that you asked her on her birthday but don't do it with everyone around and take the attention off her on her day.

Just ask her another day. Don't make it into a big thing or pressure her with gifts.

I wouldn't. Her birthday should be about her, and if you ask her on that day, it will be about you (even if you aren't intending to do that). Do it another day.

I don't think it's rude to ask her on her birthday, but I think you should ask her with a separate card just like what you'll give the other BMs. Her birthday present should be unrelated.

I know you have good intentions, but I don't think you should combine the gifts or ask on her birthday. Let her birthday be about her, not you and your wedding.. not that it's outright rude or anything, but this is her day to celebrate.

In reading your post I was reminded of my friends with birthdays near major holidays. They HATE getting Christmas gifts for their December birthdays. To respect the birthday girl, I'd suggest you ask her on another day or at least in private.

I did that! I got her a bottle of alcohol and made a homeade card. The front said happy birthday! and the inside said be my bridesmaid please? she started crying

How much of a 'it's my birthday!!!' person is she? I don't really care too much about birthdays so I would be stoked if you asked on my birthday or on another day. I don't think I'd even think to be upset that it was on a birthday. BUT, if she is a huge birthday fan, maybe save it for another day, or make sure that it's a moment just between you two?