Polite way to say your baby is not welcome

Is your plan to have a "child-free" life? Except your own? How disappointing. Children are a fun treat.

Hey guys, what's a polite way to say "Your stance on not allowing infants at your wedding is rude AF?"

Asking for a friend.

Let's see how you feel when you have your own kids and want "special accommodations"

Good luck OP.

"Being a parent of any age baby or kid doesn't mean you're entitled for (sic) special accommodations."

You're right!

And being a bride doesn't mean you're entitled to act rudely either.

Sigh...I think my point is being missed. I digress.

Me, reading this thread:

I can't wait until you're a new mom and have a friend make that life changing adjustment THAT much harder for you.

Sass, just because I ask genuine honest questions doesn't mean I'm a shit stirrer. It's not my fault people take things personally. I never posted anything about violence or abuse so whatever. Can't please everyone, including an online community. I shouldn't have to apologize for posts, nor am I just because people don't like what I am asking.

Being a bride doesn't mean that you get special dispensation to be rude to friends and family. Your friend? Probably not anymore? Your FH's cousin and his wife? His whole family is going to take away a very negative impression of the two of you. Let the two infants come. Parents understand that an infant and a toddler are totally different kettles of fish.

I wouldn't expect anyone to make special exceptions or accommodations for me in any stance, with or without kids, because I do not identify myself as an entitled person or someone to be given special circumstances.

You don't have kids yet. Never say never.

FH isn't even close to his cousin anyways if they are going to get that offended. He sees him barely once a year. It was just courtesy. Even his mom asked if they were on the list. Doesn't mean we have to change how we wish our wedding to be.

I guess I'm confused as to what special accommodation a 5 month old needs? Like Becklynn said, they won't raise your cost, won't take up any more space, and won't be running around your reception causing a ruckus.

I don't know why this is so complicated. Child free wedding means no children, including babies. I think this will be perfectly clear to your guests and they will decline the invitation if they have infants. End of story.

You think his cousin won't mention your behavior to the aunt/uncle/other cousins/ FH's parents? People know you by your actions. There isn't some get out of jail free card for your wedding. You are both choosing to be rude and unreasonable. Your families will remember that and it will effect their opinions of you. Not saying they will all cut ties, they will just remember you guys as the couple who is self absorbed and has no manners. I'm sure that isn't true, so why do things to perpetuate such an impression, particularly when infants are NEVER the issue at weddings in terms of noise and damage?

With 5 stars you should know the hot button topics by now...

AlwaysMs, FH's parents were right there when our parents met and discussed this. Even FH's dad said it wouldn't be a big deal when FH said right outloud he doesn't want babies there when his mom mentioned his cousins wife. My family as well do not want kids or babies there.

Just be honest:

"I'm having an adult-only wedding, and your child is not invited."

or

"I'm having an adult-only wedding, which does not include your child. I totally understand if this causes you to decline, but I'd rather have you not there if you can't come without your child."

OGA- you're welcome! They may not ask for much but I think the offer of "if we can do anything to make it more comfortable for you" would be appreciated

Just wanted to say @OP if you dont frequent on here much how do you have 5 stars....

Ummm let's see, you'd fucking know because you've commented on threads like this before and have even called some posters derogatory names for not believing the same thing as you.

So that's the fuck how you'd know.