plus size bridesmaids

I have been plus size my whole life and a bridesmaid 3 times. Each time I worried wether I would find something that would fit and if I would be comfortable in. I think by letting your sisters pick it will relieve some of the pressure for them. As for the other bridesmaids, maybe just say you appreciate their suggestions but you want everyone to wear something they are comfortable in. David's Bridal has robes in plus sizes so you may be able to get everyone matching robes. This would probably help your sisters feel more included.

You made a decision that is considerate and generous of your bridesmaids. Not everyone gets the choice to wear what they want. No need to explain to them why you did it. It's not your place either and could be embarrassing for the larger women. Just stick to the plan of letting them find dresses they are comfortable with.

Also, skip the robes. Please please please skip the robes. As a plus size woman, I would be mortified to have to wear a robe during getting ready photos. Please don't put the plus size women in this position. Don't do robes at all, let them get ready in whatever they feel like getting ready in.

Okay, so I may have found you an etsy option (http://etsy.me/2iysVxG) for buying customized robes. Please, if it is at all possible order all the robes from the same place. Do not let the other bridesmaids try to guilt you into ordering something different for them.

Also, if everybody is allowed to buy a dress on their own, I would not worry about the others offering suggestions that these two can't use. If they're trying to go "We should all buy this!" or "We need to all buy from this designer!" then you'd have a problem. If you're having problems, you may be best asking them to all order from a website like Azazie or eShakti. (eShakti would be a bit harder but there are some really good styles that could be adjusted to fit anyone in your party.)

LillyBean17, thank you! I honestly feel naive myself because I've always been the "tiny sister" so as awful as it sounds and as delicate as I've tried to be, I didn't even think of their feelings when it comes to the robes. I wasn't a big fan of them anyways--it was just a suggestion another bridesmaid had and I thought was cute. I'll def. be skipping the robes!

Kelly, the robes are something that a lot of women do for their Bridesmaids. If you want to get them all present you can get wine glasses with their names etched on them!

Just keep reiterating that everyone is allowed to choose their own dress and if your girls would like to message you their choices that fine, but you're not requiring one specific dress.

And I second the "no robes". Instead, look for cute pajamas that each girl would like! I got mine tank tops and soft pants.

Hi Kelli! Stick with your plan, but maybe give a bit more guidance. Azazie has beautiful dresses and they can be ordered to custom measurements. You can still pick the color, then just ask them all to choose whatever style they'd like.

Please skip robes and button ups. PP have covered why robes are bad, but I'd add that button ups often awkwardly gap at the chest for larger women. I'm an XL and button down shirts either look like I'm trying to squeeze my boobs into a too-small shirt, or they fit my boobs and I'm wearing a tent. I'd guess your sisters would have a solar experience.

I bought monogrammed t shirts for all my bridesmaids on Etsy. They were v necks so we could take them off without messing up our hair or makeup, and they were super soft so they'll make good pjs. We went to a salon, so some girls wore jeans and others yoga pants. You might need to do some searching to find one that goes up to a 3x, but you can do it! Just make sure to check the type of shirt with the seller. A 3xl in a men's t-shirt is much bigger than a 3xl in juniors sizing (in fact, I wear a 2-3xl in juniors, so keep that in mind!)

I agree with what pp have said. As someone who is an XL and sometimes XXL depending on the brand I was in a wedding where we wore robes. I ordered XXL in the plus size category to be safe. It still wouldn't close all the way in the stomach. During group pictures I had to be positioned in back so my stomach was covered, it was not fun.

No need to explain other than you want them all to feel beautiful in what they chose! I did the same thing! Girls loved the different dress ideas!

OP...thank you for being considerate of your BMs : )

My BP consists of those ranging from a size 00-26 & we shopped at David's Bridal that had a nice selection for all to try on. They had a choice of dress style...they all ended up with the same style dress & I must say, it flatters every body shape nicely : )

I do plan on getting a flannel shirt for each with similar colors to wear as we walk outdoors for pics (Oct in WI). Being 3x myself, I know sizes are far from consistent, so I made a mental note of their dress size when they were purchased (for this purpose only/not to be creepy), so I can see the measurements online for that dress/compare measurements when shopping for their flannel shirt rather than relying on the size listed.

I am a plus size woman and have been through my adult life. I love it that you have given your BM's the options to choose a dress that compliments their bodies. As far as robes or button downs, I have work both and was just fine. With the button down I wore leggings and the robe was long enough that I felt comfortable. No matter what you choose I would make sure everyone has the same shirt or robe. You don't want to single your sisters out.

I have two bridesmaids..1 is plus size and the other is a size 4. I picked a color and length and let them pick dresses. I really like the mismatch look, so there were no questions when I explained that. Also, etsy has some gorgeous floral bridesmaid robes that come in both standard and plus size for the same pattern. They even come in different lengths if someone isn't comfortable with a short robe.

Let them pick the dress they want and skip the robes! I am a plus size girl for my whole life and very few people have seen me with that little clothing on!! No way would I want to be in that with people in the room.

I agree with what PP have said, though I'll add that it's common--and quite trendy--to have MoHs in a different style from the rest of the bridal party. Your sisters could wear something markedly different both during the wedding and getting-ready time in the morning. You could gift them pajama sets and give bathrobes to your bridesmaids. Something to consider.

I'm plus size and so is one of my bridesmaids. We did find a dress that all 3 could fit and felt comfortable in. We went to David's bridal and they do have a good range of sizes. I think it's a great idea for you to let them pick what dress they want and the other bridesmaids should respect your choice and you shouldn't have to explain your choice to them. Your idea of just saying to them that you want everyone to be comfortable sounds go to me.

I'm a plus size bride (size 22/24) and have also been a bridesmaid. One of my MOH's is a size 28/30. Definitely consider David's Bridal if your sisters are feeling like they can't find anything. They have up to size 30 and in most of the shorter dresses they can chooe to buy it with more length. My gals are all wearing the same dress which is knee length but my MOH who is plus size bought the one with extra length so there's no issue of showing off the lady bits. I have also had luck finding nice dresses at Macy's that could easily double as a BM dress.

I'm so happy you're skipping the robes! I've thought about doing matching PJs or something but I kind of just find it weird. I may do a matching shirt but that's about it. We aren't having a photographer while we get ready so it's kind of whatevs to me.

There is no need to tell your bridal party why you chose to allow them to make choices. In my opinion, it is the nicest thing you can do for a bridesmaid plus size or no. If you want to embarrass your sisters go ahead and tell the other maids why you chose the way you did.

I was able to find adorable plus sized floral robes on The Knot Shop for all of my bridesmaids and myself. I would look there if you are still considering going with the robes. I got them on a 50% of sale and paid less than $20 a piece - I already tried on the one I bought for myself (I'm a size 22) and it fits beautifully!

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My friend ordered me a robe off that site and it was great.

I'm about a 24 and 3x/4x was fine. But every body is different. The other BP robes are from there too.

I wore shorts underneath but I was literally running all over the hotel the morning of her wedding. I've worn it since as well without shorts and felt comfortable.

There isn't one person who is overweight who doesn't know what their body looks like. If the other girls want those dress that wouldn't work for your sisters, they can. Let your sisters stand out in a different color or style. Let them feel like they can shine and be confident and comfortable.