Plus Ones/Significant Others for those not in Wedding Party

Significant others should always be invited., whether you know them well or not.

Etiquette definitely says otherwise. If they're in a relationship, no matter whether you know them or not, they get invited as a social unit.

Plus one's are for truly single guests.

Significant others are not plus ones. They are a social unit and should be invited together whether you know the other person or not.

If people don't respond to texts, give them a call. Also, if you're trying to keep the wedding small maybe you should think about not inviting guests if you aren't close enough with them to even know if they are in a relationship. That may help.

So then my question becomes: If I've been told through the grapevine this person is in a relationship, and I try getting a hold of them to know the other's name but don't get a response back, Do I address the invite to 'Guest of _____'?

I'm allowing for all of my guests to bring someone. I want everyone to have someone there they are comfortable with.

It doesn't matter if you've met them or not. Call the person. If they are dating someone, the person gets to come automatically.

If they aren't close enough for you to call and ask, they shouldn't be in the invitation list at all.

Hi Katy! If you can't get the name of their significant other, I'd just address the invitations to ____ and Guest!

You need to invite significant others. If you don't know their name, ask your primary guest. Worst case scenario, if they don't respond you can address the invitation with "and guest"

If you don't know if they have a sig other, they aren't close enough to be invited.

It doesnt matter if you met them or not, you cannot prevent people from bringing their significant others. Typically you learn from the rsvp if people are bringing a plus one. If you are not sure and want to keep wedding small do not invite people whose significant others you do not want to accommodate.

Ok. Thank you WW Community!

You always invite people in relationships together. If you don't know the name, you try to get it by asking the person. If you still don't know for some reason, address the invite to Suzie Smith and Guest. But you really should know their significant other's name if they're your friend.

I'm not going to a wedding without my SO.

We had a similar problem. I didn't want to have to tell Aunt... she can't come because I wanted to also invite Close Friend...who may have a SO. I have a couple of friends who change SO's with the season. While I agree with etiquette, I think the rules are unreasonable sometimes. We invited Aunt and Close friend (no +1 for friend).

Here's a wonderful article that explains the +1 rule and cleared things up for me. Note, they describe non-single people as anyone married or living with a partner or in a serious long term relationship. I don't think boyfriend of the week qualifies as non-single.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/wendy-atterberry/plus-one-wedding-invites_b_6021740.html

I'm with @Rita - I didn't give a plus 1 to my friend that changes SO's with the season but of course she reached out to me and "couldn't figure out how to RSVP for him on the wedding website". Well that's because his name wasn't listed...but I gave in and let her rsvp for his dumb ass anyways.

I also agree with @Melissa - why are you inviting someone who won't even reply to you? Save your money and don't invite that person OR their "SO".

Uh, Rita, you understand that isn't an article, right? It's a blog piece that anyone with a pulse can write for the Huffington Post. That author is oblivious to the rules of etiquette. If you want to be rude, follow her advice. Otherwise, treat people properly.

We gave all of our guests a plus one if we weren't sure if they're in a relationship. We budgeted for that so no one would have to come alone.