Plus ones

Tell them again, you have to first check with your vendors if you are allowed to change the guest count and that you would let him know!

If you're willing to still let him bring a guest, check with all vendors to make sure you're able to. If so, then let him bring the guest. If not, reach out to him and say that you checked with your vendors, and you unfortunately can't give him a plus one due to guest count limits and vendor restrictions. If you're no longer willing to let him bring one, reach out and tell him you're sorry, but you cannot accommodate his plus one.

My mother in law texted us 2 weeks before our wedding saying she invited her best friend whom I had never met; we graciously responded, we apologize, however, due to executive orders within the state of NC, we have reached our outdoor limit of 25 guests. We hope you can understand. She threw a tantrum, but not worth it.
Best wishes 🤍

For a significant other, you let it go and allow them. For anyone else, you nip it in the bud and inform them of size restrictions. They can decide from thete.

Thanks everyone. It’s not a SO and someone they merely just met and wanted to introduce to mutual friends. I let them know that my wedding was not the time or place to be inviting others without asking first and due to size restrictions we couldn’t allow it. Thanks again

View Quoted Comment Thats a good response! Were they cool about it?

That’s kind of rude of him to just say that

View Quoted Comment Unfortunately, no. He asked to be completely taken off the reception list so he could spend time with her following the ceremony.

View Quoted Comment Oh my goodness! Sounds like he's not a true friend.

Is this plus one he wants to invite a person he's in a relationship with? If so then you should try and fit the plus one in. People in relationships should always be given plus ones regardless of engagement/marriage or length of time. I could definitely understand a person ditching the reception for their significant other.


However if this is just some random girl or friend then he sounds kinda horrible. I'd set him straight and tell him that unfortunately there will be no room for plus ones. If he was my friend I'd probably tell him to not even bother coming since he is going to flake on the reception for this plus one.

View Quoted Comment This is not his SO. He was seeing someone a few months ago, but this is now a new girl who he has been seeing for roughly two weeks. We asked all single friends and family when invites went out if they would like a plus one to try and avoid this from happening and his answer was no. We are now six days away and he is trying to add her in. He told me to just squeeze her at his table, but I’m not going to make my other guests uncomfortable during the night just to accommodate him.

View Quoted Comment Ok yea I totally agree with you on that. He had the opportunity to have a plus one and declined. I'd tell him that because of covid you can't just squeeze her in at his table because then there wouldn't be proper social distancing going on or something to those lines.

I’d say no because counts are due we’ll in advance and 99% of the time they don’t allow for last minute changes plus do you want to pay for someone who couldn’t be bothered to rsvp on time?

View Quoted Comment Wow!! I would've said "reception list? You're crossed off the guest list entirely lol. Enjoy your day!" I wouldn't let him attend the ceremony- if he's so desperate/fevered to show her off that he's skipping a reception for it I wouldn't put it passed him to bring her.


Under normal circumstances asking to add a new gf last minute wouldn't be a big deal to me, and I'd be in the boat of "if you've can, then do" but we're in pandemic, people gotta keep numbers down. However, even in normal circumstances this behavior (asking then just TELLING you he's bringing her) would get them a "no you can't" 100%. That's so freaking rude!