Plus ones

I'm sure either is fine. I did it on the save the dates but I will definitely include it on the Invitation!

I would wait for invitations.

I would address the save the dates to "John Smith & Guest" so they know prior if they are flying in or staying in a hotel that they get a guest.

We just sent the save the dates to the guest and spread word of mouth that they'll have a plus one. It will be on the invites officially.

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Hey Becca!

Agreeing with FutureMrsD! You could wait for the invitations, but I personally would prefer to know ahead of time! Especially if it requires me to make travel arrangements! I'm a planner so I like to plan ahead of time

I’m doing it on save the dates. Ppl need to book hotels and flights and I’m sure they would love to know if they can bring someone. Knowing my family and friends some will only come if they can bring someone.

So people wouldn’t get confused I addressed my plus ones on the save the date. If there was someone I wanted to give a plus one and didn’t know their plus one’s name yet, I addressed it to that person and guest .

A few few weeks after I followed up via text or Facebook and asked for their guest’s name . I did have a few situations where I have guest coming from out of town and wouldn’t know anyone at the wedding that I gave them a plus one . Some declined and said they wouldn’t need one; some said they would get back to me . The ones that would get back to me I explained to them that we have a tight guest list and that I’m happy to give them an add on, but we need to know by a certain date who they plus one would be or we wouldn’t be able to extend the offer longer .

I think I will do it on both.
Mr John Smith & guest...

I am doing it on my website. All my RSVP stuff is on my website. Not doing RSVP cards

I wrote mine on the save the date envelope but I saw a good idea for my invitations. So people don’t try to invite everyone they know to come along with them for example, if there is a family of 4. On that RSVP it will say “___ of 4 attending” something along those lines so they cannot bring extra people other than who is in their group.

So I have a surely not uncommon situation. I addressed my STDs the same way I will address the invitations: Mr. and Mrs. So-And-So, or Ms. WhatsHerName, or Mr. FriendPerson.

Well, Mr. FriendPerson texted me excitedly after getting their STD in the mail and told me they'd start trying to find a date. I'm not inviting him with a plus one, as he hasn't been dating, let alone in a relationship that would warrant an "automatic" plus one, and will know a handful of others - including singles - at the party.

Is there a better way to communicate before invitations get out whether someone gets a plus one? I tried to gently wave him off by jokingly saying something like, "oh, we have you covered! You're sitting with FriendYouKnow and OtherFriendYouKnow :-)"

I think that got the message through but I'm concerned about others having the same question. Our invitations list the number of seats reserved per invitation and I made cutouts with each name listed individually (so, Mr. Cousin and Mrs. Cousin, or Ms. Friend) to put on the belly band that will fasten it together, but I'm still a bit concerned about assumptions regarding plus ones and kids (which we are not allowing except my flower girl).

Thoughts? Advice?

What do you do if your rsvps are online? How do you get the guests name?