Plus Ones When Cutting the Guest List

You’re not being unreasonable. You have to make cuts somewhere, why would you cut someone you know instead of a random date you’ve never met?

You aren’t obligated to provide Plus Ones for truly single people. However, I think your wedding party is a good exception to this. They are committing a lot of time and expense to being a part of your day, so I think allowing them to bring a guest is the proper thing to do.

View Quoted Comment Completely agree with this.

I don’t think this is unreasonable. If things don’t change I will have a 50 person limit, including us. So I would have 24 people to invite. My friends, even the married ones, have all told me to not worry about it. With only 24 people to invite they don’t expect their spouse/ SO to be one. People tend to be understanding now.

If they aren't in a relationship when the invitations go out, then a plus one is unnecessary (unless they won't know anyone other than you two and will be travelling). If they are in a relationship (regardless of length), then you'll need to invite their partner (by name), because they would then no longer be a plus one. You're not being a bridezilla.

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I agree with this...maybe make the exception for the bridal party but even in a non pandemic year you could do that for budget purposes. Plus not seeing how that makes your a bridezilla. Some people incorrectly use that term.

Why invite random strangers when you're cutting closest friends from the list? A significant other is not a plus one, and it's not fair to anyone if you ask someone to celebrate your relationship while disrespecting theirs (only acknowledging long term 1+ years together or engaged/married only). Single guests have fun all the time without dates.

It’s hard enough to make these cuts & I feel your pain. You’re not being a bridezilla!

I think as long as you are allowing everyone in a relationship to bring their significant other then I think it's totally fine. I don't at all think you are being a bridezilla for not allowing random dates that you don't know for your single friends/family.

No, you are not being unreasonable.

This is a common question and I think a lot of people will be making the same decision. Plus ones for single people are never required or expected, especially in a pandemic situation.

The wedding party should bring dates however not giving dates to people who are not in relationships is fine. If they won’t know by one at your wedding then maybe a date, but if it’s family that is single and will know many people there then they can survive without a date.

Sounds like your FH is being the unreasonable one here. Covid will definitely still be a thing in May, and random plus ones would take away from people who you really want there. In a normal world, extending plus ones to the wedding party may be the right thing to do, but this isn't a normal world right now.

I don’t think that’s unreasonable. I was in my friends bridal party and my fiancé wasn’t. We’ve been together for 5 years, but with covid she could only have 50 people and wanted room for family. She asked if it was okay to uninvite my fiancé and I said of course. Later on he was invited again because many of her family members are older and didn’t feel safe attending with everything going on.

I don’t think this is unreasonable! We are actually doing the same thing. We have a groomsman that we never planned on giving a plus one to (wedding is in May also) and he just started dating his gf 2 months ago. She still won’t get the invite due to COVID number restrictions unless things change drastically. I was planning on having a conversation with her but anticipate she will understand. Everyone I have spoken to has seemed to understand so far!