Plus ones for elderly needing rides?

We gave ours plus ones that needed it since they really wanted to be there. This allowed them to choose one of their children (like my mom and dad's age) to bring them if the children weren't invited due to them being VERY distant relatives, but we added on the plus ones after we found out who needed them.

The elderly that I have invited will all be getting rides with family members that live near them who are also invited to the wedding. Maybe this would also be an option for you.

I wouldn't include it on the invitation but if they call you and say they can't make it because they can't get there you may throw it out there as an option.

I gave plus ones to anyone that wasn't able to drive because how could they come without a way to and from? Someone with a known caregiver, IMO, is similar to someone in a relationship. They go everywhere with that person and would feel more comfortable with their caregiver there.

If you want them there, invite their caregivers. I see this very, very often.

Yep invite the caregivers.

My grandfather's caregiver became like family to some of us. I couldn't imagine not inviting her. She's keeping my grandfather alive, healthy, and active. Well... for a 92 year old lol.

Just do it and let them decide if they want to bring someone.

Thanks, everyone. I probably should clarify a few things:

1) These aren't must haves. We had a few great aunts/uncles (ones that we're close to) on our list and this turned into a "well, if we invite so-and-so, then we have to invite so-and-so" kind of thing.

2) No one has an actual caregiver...I guess "chauffeur" would be a more appropriate term. They're in decent health but choose not to drive anymore.

3) One would probably get a ride with FH's grandparents, but I don't think the grandparents would be thrilled about it because they're super busy and need to be at the wedding early (FH is a minister and our officiant)

4) The other would need a ride and would probably ask her daughter--FMIL's cousin-- which would be fine, except we're not inviting any of FMIL's cousins (despite them inviting FMIL to their kid's weddings) and we don't want that to be an issue.

5) We already cut two-- got the go ahead from FH's grandmother (her brothers and sisters).

In the grand scheme of things, I guess it's not a huge deal...3 more guests, maybe 4. Sigh. I just thought we were finished with the guest list last week.

Can we just do the one extra guest and hope none of FMIL's cousins get hurt feelings?

I was going to invite my great aunt and uncle with a plus one to drive them, but my great uncle recently passed. Instead of the awkward how-do-I-address-the-invitation-now conversation, I'm just also inviting their daughter. I'm not inviting any other of my mom's cousins (my second cousins? cousins twice removed? whatever). I think it's a nice touch to also invite a chauffeur/caregiver. And in the grand scheme of things it's not that big of a deal!

I would invite caregivers also. My Grandma is just riding in the limo though.

We invited the caregivers. It was only 1 in our case...

Taxi's probably not cost efficient-- both still live in NJ, but at least a half hour from each other and an hour and a half from the venue. I'll double check with FH's grandparents that it's okay if we don't add a plus one for the one aunt and she comes with them (not sure who she would ask besides them anyway). We'll just add a plus one for the other aunt and let her pick her guest.

Thanks for the help!

Unbeknownst to me, my Aunt needed a driver and she was coming a long way and really wanted to be at the wedding. Apparently, she doesn't drive alone. She asked if my cousin could come with her and since we are not that close anymore, I was okay with inviting him because I really wanted my aunt to be there. But, that is the only person I believe needed a driver.

If it will save you a headache or drama in the future, then give them a plus one.

Lol I have at least 5 chauffeurs on my list. Some of the plus one chauffeurs even have a plus one.

I think you can invite them, and if they want to find a ride or need a ride they will just ask for a plus one. There is an elderly neighbor we are inviting who has never had a license. She has a part time care giver who was actually my best friend in high school. I just invited my friend. My neighbor will probably get the ride with my friend. I also am inviting a couple who I have known all my life. He was in a car accident 4 years ago. It is in a wheel chair and can hardly do anything for himself. We are very happy he still has his mind. Even though his wife will be there, I gave them an extra seat for the caregiver too. The caregiver will be the one driving and taking him to the bathroom.

We did; one of the elderly people we invited with a caregiver didn't show (she was hospitalized that morning so we had two no-shows) but we also forgot to include ourselves and a few vendors we fed in the headcount so our actual numbers were higher than the headcount.

But yes...I'd give it.

I would think....can't a family member drive them? But if they rely on a companion/caregiver/nurse, that person should be invited.

If the elderly guests live close enough to each other and wedding and reception location(s), consider hiring a shuttle. If he or she needs the attention of the caregiver beyond driving, of course invite the caregiver.