Plus one rule on singles?

We've made the rule that if we know they have been dating/ are engaged or married they get a plus one! If we know they aren't dating anyone, then we aren't giving them one! I don't see the need to give people plus one's just because!!

If you did decide to give her a plus one, I don't think you should have to make an exception for everyone. At the end of the day, it's your wedding so you can do what you want and give plus one's to who you want and don't want. Don't feel guilty

I would give her a plus one if you can. Going to a wedding alone can really suck, even if you know people there. It can be difficult to be in an environment focused on other people's love and being one of the only single people there.

While we were planning, we stuck to married/engaged couples, and couples in a long term/serious relationship or where we knew both people in the "couple". Of course every situation is different, and if you really want to give her a plus one, then go for it. You don't have to explain to your other friend who wanted a plus one that you gave someone else one...and chances are she'll never even know! If you have already maxed out your guest list, I wouldn't necessarily go the extra mile for a plus one random-date-stranger!

We had a single groomsman who asked for a plus one, then two weeks before the wedding didn't want to bring her, then a week before wanted to bring someone else. He ultimately showed up to the wedding alone so that was a little frustrating and we wish we had known sooner lol!

I generally gave plus ones to my friends that didn't really know anyone there so that they would feel more comfortable.

You don't have to give a plus one to singles. However, I am giving all my out of town guests a plus one regardless of relationship status because it sucks to travel alone.

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Thanks, this makes me feel better. Honestly she is an old friend but we're not that close, we just meet up for lunch (like I said, only once or twice a year). I do like her but we're not super close so if she chose not to go to my wedding I wouldn't be crying about it. Plus the budget of trying to accommodate my distant relatives is already hard enough.

I'm only giving +1s to direct family members with serious significant others (which is only my sister and her boyfriend), and anyone who won't know anyone else at the wedding (which is just my co-worker, who has a long-term boyfriend). I'm also letting my cousin bring his long-term girlfriend because the rest of his family can't make it and he'd have to travel all the way from Scotland by himself.

My FH's family friend's daughter asked if she could bring her girlfriend and I said no, because her entire family will be there and I didn't want to open that can of worms by allowing someone to bring a significant other when other invitees have significant others who aren't being invited.

So, unless they'll be alone in the crowd or are a direct family member, no +1s. We want to be surrounded by people who have loved, supported, prayed for, and encouraged us throughout our lives on our Wedding day, not a bunch of strangers.

Both options are fine — our rule was no plus ones UNLESS they were traveling/alone. So the friends who had their whole social circle there weren’t offered a plus one, and the few single guests who didn’t really know anyone else WERE offered a plus one. It was fine and caused no issues. But, you also don’t need to offer her one if the list is tight.


For what it’s worth, we had ONE person ask for one ...funny story, we had hemmed and hawed over offering her one as she did know most everyone, but she also wasn’t super close to them like the others. ...turns out amidst our debating, when we ultimately decided not to give her one, we forgot to fill it in on her rsvp card 🤣🤣. So everyone had “__ of __ attending” with the second number filled in, but hers was blank! OOPS. So she asked if she could bring someone, we said yes. And. She ended up choosing not to do so! So, also worth considering that just because you offer a guest does not mean she’ll absolutely bring one.
Ultimately we had 2 single guests who brought a random (friend) plus one. One didn’t debate , and brought a friend along. The other resisted, since she wasn’t dating anyone, and we actively encouraged her to bring someone. But, if we hadn’t, she definitely wouldn’t have used her plus one!

I gave a plus one to everyone. I wouldn’t want to go to a wedding alone.

We gave plus one's to those in serious relationships (don't need a ring, but they have to be in love, basically). Anyone without a partner did not get a plus one.

We are not giving anyone plus ones unless they are traveling, so they don’t have to travel alone. Also if they are going to the wedding and won’t know anyone we are giving them one also. We want everyone to have a good time and I personally wouldn’t go to a wedding where I don’t know anyone alone.

Technically plus one's are for single people and not those in relationships. But, if it's not confirmed the friend will be there I would give them the plus one as an option. I know I wouldn't want to go to a wedding alone if I don't really know anyone. We're planning on giving our single guests the option of a plus one if they want.

You get to make and break any wedding rules you want. It’s your wedding! We aren’t giving single people plus ones however I have a friend who has to travel here and knows no one who will be getting a plus one. It’s way easier to ensure she has someone to hang out with while I do wedding stuff!

View Quoted Comment Good idea. If bff can’t come I’ll get her a plus one.