Hi there,
One of my close friends from college scheduled her wedding for last August of 2020, which they sadly, like so many, had to reschedule to this year in August of 2021. When she first scheduled her wedding in late 2019, I was VERY single, and she knew it and I wasn't given a plus one (which is fine, I get it, weddings are expensive and stressful). I am in my early 30's, and I lived with the bride and her groom while I went through a horrendous breakup about 3 years ago (they weren't engaged yet). I met someone in early February of this year, who is now my boyfriend, but of course after the wedding was rescheduled. The bride hasn't met him, but knows him, and has spoken with him over the phone. We had a dinner planned that had to be rescheduled as the bride is very busy with work and wedding planning, of course! Anyway, my long winded background is to ask whether it is appropriate to ask her if my now boyfriend can join the wedding? She only has two Maids of Honor and no bridesmaids, so her wedding party isn't big, but there was a group of about 14 girls at the bachelorette party, and we have all been invited to the rehearsal dinner. I will be the only person of this group, aside from our one friend who is still single, without a spouse, fiancé or boyfriend there. The wedding is a destination wedding, and not necessarily small, I think 100+. I am very conscious of how stressful wedding planning can be and the overwhelming expense of it all, and I also want to ensure I'm not overstepping. Given all of this, if I ask to bring my boyfriend -- but also mention that I totally understand if she says no -- is this rude or totally out of line?
Sincerely,
Trying to Be Polite
