Plus One Problems

That’s up to your and your budget. SO should be invited but plus ones for truly single guests is up to you. It’s a nice gesture if you can afford it but not strictly required.

Married people and those in relationships should be invited, by name, with their significant others. Plus ones are for single guests. You aren't required to give any single guests a plus one, but if you're expecting someone to travel from out of town, I think it's polite. Especially if they won't have other friends or family to socialize with.

So a plus one is for truly single people. Anyone in a relationship when invites go out should have both parties invited by name on the invitation. For people that are truly single when invites go out it’s up to you if you want to extend them a plus one. We gave everyone a guest because everyone traveled to our wedding.

Spouses and fiances get invites, some would extend to live in or long time relationships (but I would put over 21 on this).

I think many people would not come from out of town with out a guest.

Married folks and people in relationships should have both partners listed on the invite. Single people are at your discretion.

Plus ones are only for single people. Anyone in a relationship (bf/gf, engaged, married) should be invited as a couple. As far as giving plus ones to the single folks...that is your choice. Me personally, I gave all single people a plus one so they didn't have to come alone.

Couples are units, so they should be invited together! It's not required, but a nice gesture, for you to give plus ones to singles

We invited all significant others by name, so they were a guest, not a plus one. We gave plus ones to the wedding party but no one else.

Its mostly a LARGE group of coworkers Im concerned about. Anyone coming from out of town has a plus one or folks that might not know anyone else..

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The rules for coworkers aren't different from anyone else. If they are in a relationship, their significant other gets an invitation (this is not a plus one). If they are single, you can choose whether to offer a plus one.

If you cannot afford to invite them all with their significant others, then reduce your guest list by eliminating couples or groups (not by eliminating significant others).

Everyone here will say it is up to your space and budgeting needs because that is first and foremost - if you can't afford them and don't have room for them then there's only so much you can do, ya know?
i personally looked at it this way: whomever was married/engaged are invited as a couple unit and whomever doesn't know anyone would get one and whomever was so introverted that they'd have the worst time ever at my wedding alone would get one. i sort of gaged who would be extroverted enough to not need one and who were in friend groups that i invited who would be fine in their group. i even asked some friends if they would be ok without one and they were fine with it. for instance all my unmarried coworkers i just invited them as solo guests with no plus ones because they can socialize amongst themselves anyway. i was totally limited on space so that's kind of what i had to do. of course i had some grumbles from people with a bf/gf but if you don't have the space or money, that's just how it is. a lot of these comments say that anyone in a relationship should get one but that's really up to you. i view bf/gf as still single and not yet a social entity.
i am one of those where if i had all the money and space in the world i'd definitely allow it but i don't, so i kind of had to not let those who have a bf/gf not bring them. some people might be bitter about it but oh well ahah i mean what can they do if there isn't space.
i've seen weddings where they literally only invite the person they know even if they are married. i think some people do that also to keep their guest list at bay - some people just don't want to walk around their wedding and see that half the guests are strangers.
but definitely give your wedding party members a plus one! [if you have the room]
again, all of this is dependent on your budget and space.

Depends on how well you know your co-workers private lives. If you're not sure how long Jane has been with John or if Tom and Sue live together or if Sally even has a boyfriend/ girlfriend then I wouldn't even begin to assume or assess anything. I would give them all a plus one if you're not sure.
You can know a co-worker pretty well and still not know.

View Quoted Comment I have a similar situation with a large group of work friends and I asked them
what they would prefer and they said single was fine- this way I could fit them
all in

Https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-ideas/plus-one-wedding-etiquette

Basically the article says following old school advice like no plus ones for unweded guests in relationships may not fit your wedding, but it's a personal choice. However, if married or if in bridal party and coupled but unwed or single, invite the partner and give singles plus one. It says telling someone with a SO they can't bring SO isn't about being "fair".

View Quoted Comment Until June 26 of 2016 it wasn't even legal for me to marry my SO. We'd been together 10 years at that point.
It's nice to know that we would not be able to go to a wedding together since we couldn't possibly get married.

The article does list reasons why a couple getting married may choose not to go this route, which I also noted in my summary. That did not reflect my personal view. No one said it would bar you from attending with your SO. It's up to the couple and thankfully times have changed.

For my wedding, if people are over 21, in relationships longer than a year or if they live together, they get a couples invitation with each person listed. My single cousins do not get plus ones, but family elders like my single aunts do as a sign of respect.

You shouldn't want to go to the wedding of someone that would deny you bringing your SO of 10 years, especially at a time when marriage equality didn't (and in some ways still doesn't) exist. That's hurtful and disrespectful.

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That article does NOT say every BF/GF must be invited. It does suggest extending to non-married couples living together or who have a child together. That makes sense to me. Not some dude your 18YO cousin met last week.

View Quoted Comment I didn't say that either, Karen. I said that if they're in the bridal party they should get a plus one. The article explains that because they spend substantial time and money to be in your wedding, its impolite not to give a single person a plus one. Basically, it's your wedding, you make the rules and if people don't like it that's too bad.

Spouses got invited together no plus one long time relationships also got invited together familys did also, everyone else for me did not get a plus one because it wasn't in my budget and I didn't want random people there. It's a personal decision if you can afford to give people plus ones and it doesn't bother you than go ahead and if you also dont want people you dont know there then leave the plus one out unless again they have been together a long time or are married or engaged or anything of that sort.

The article is wrong and rude. A couple is a social unit and invited together by name. Only the two people involved can determine whether or not they are a couple. It's not a matter of rings,engagement, time together, living together--it's whether or not they consider themselves a couple. If you don't know, ask one of them.

Honor their relationship when asking them to celebrate yours.

A plus-one is the guest of a guest and optional.