Hi all,
I am having some issues with plus ones with our non traditional wedding. My fiance and I decided to plan a micro wedding, originally was supposed to be incredibly small, and only the most important, non negotiable people to be invited. We were trying to keep it at 30 guests. The issue is, I have 3 best girl friends that I want to be my bridesmaids. They all have long term partners. At first we were tossing around the idea on not inviting them, but I personally felt I couldn't tell my best friends to leave their SO's home. It feels cheap, and tacky to me. So I made the decision to include them. I will add, two of the SO's I personally know very well, and one that I will definitely build a friendship with because he's marrying my absolute best friend. He just hasn't been around as long as the others. I'll add that we chose a pretty expensive venue. We figured, since we were keeping it small and intimate, having somewhere nice would be worth it.
To complicate things, as time went on we decided that we felt we were missing out on partying with our other close friends. We have a ton that we see pretty close to weekly. So, we decided to be untraditional and open up our guest list for the party portion. To break it down, we will have our original guest list (30) there for the entire wedding: ceremony, cocktail hour, dinner, dancing. Then we have an additional 35 guests coming for cake cutting, snacks, open bar and lots of dancing for 3-4 hours. However, now that we have decided to add this, you can imagine how much more expensive this will be. Dinner and open bar for 6 hours is where we're dumping our money into. Is it absolutely absurd to have just my bridesmaids be a part of ceremony, cocktail hour, and dinner...then have their SO's meet us there for the party portion with the rest of our guests coming late? This would cut my cost around $700+.
My 3 girlfriends are the kindest and would probably agree to whatever I'd like, but I want to do what is RIGHT. I don't want to hurt anyones feelings. I will also add, one of the 3 bridesmaids doesn't know anyone else. I can definitely introduce her to my other two GF's, and I have no doubt they will make her feel comfortable and include her. I personally would like to invite them, but I'm trying to find some sort of compromise with my fiance.
thoughts??