Plus One Invite Conundrum

If she's only invited because she's his girlfriend, I would only send the invitation to him but list both their names on the envelope.

I agree with Stacey. While you only really need one invite I would use her name instead of "& Guest".

Agreed with the others. One invitation to him with both their names on it.

I agree with others. She isn't a plus one. You still invite her by name, but on his invitation, so the envelope would say "John Smith and Jane Doe" or whatever.

I agree with everyone else! One invite, both names! The only couple we sent two separate save the dates to were newly dating when we sent them out and we're good friends with both - so we wanted to make sure they both knew they were invited regardless of them dating each other.

Agree with everyone. Only send it to him, but include her name on it. This is how we did it with anyone in a relationship but not living together, even if everyone was local.

A significant other regardless of how long they have been together or if they cohabitate or not is an automatic invite. The fact that you barely know them or haven’t met doesn’t matter because the same applies, and Zoom and FaceTime are a thing. A plus one is a random stranger invited to accompany an unattached single guest and is always optional with many couples not allowing any for space/budget reasons. It is inappropriate and disrespectful to ask someone to celebrate your relationship while discounting theirs. In this case, you address both of them by name and just send it to one location.

View Quoted Comment We are definitely including her, as we both know and like her. I was just not sure if she would get her own as they don’t live together.

One invitation send to his address with both of their names on it is sufficient.