Plus one guest

Have you already sent out invitations? You only address invites to exactly who's invited. So, for any couples, you address them as "FirstName LastName & FirstName LastName," instead of "LastName Family." For any single guests that are just getting . plus one, you'd put "FirstName LastName & Guest."

If people ask you about it, you can say "due to limited space at our venue, we can't accommodate extra guests at the wedding."

Do you have a wedding website? I addressed this in one of my top FAQs. When they ask or tell you, just be honest. I would say “I’m so excited you’re coming for our day, but we are only able to accommodate [you and one guest] or [those listed on the invitation]. I hope you understand!”


If they don’t, I guess it will mean your ceremony will be even more intimate, unfortunately.

On my wedding website I also wrote at this time we cannot accommodate plus one or additional guest requests due to limited space.

We only addressed the invitations to who were actually invited. We also put on our wedding website we couldn't accommodate children. A friend of mine put adult only reception on her invitations.

The invitation should have been addressed to the invitee and their partner, by name. This would help limit much of the confusion. I would say "I'm sorry, the invitation was intended for you and __ only. Unfortunately, we cannot accommodate any extra guests."

View Quoted Comment I already sent invitations. It was clear on the invitation who is invited but some people we talked to said that they were planning to bring their children as well 😞.

View Quoted Comment Well they don’t get that option. You need to call and say what the PP said. People are so rude. Good luck

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This. People don't seem to understand that weddings are strict on seating/budget/etc. and aren't like birthday parties where it's "the more, the merrier". Kids especially are a sore spot when it comes to weddings. Leave them home and get a babysitter, they weren't invited.

If someone tried to RSVP for their whole family, call them and let them know, "I'm sorry, but the invitation is just for you and X. We can't accommodate your whole family due to space issues and unfortunately your children were not invited."

You have to be direct and say, sorry for any misunderstanding (which is BS, the invite was clear), but only you and the MR. were invited. We look forward to seeing you there. Do NOT give a reason, they will look for "solutions" to your problem -- like oh, our additional guests won't eat or drink, oh, your aunt is not coming, they can have her spot. JUST SAY NO

If someone has a significant other, they aren't supposed to be considered a "plus one". They should be invited since a couple should be considered a unit when making a guest list. If you are having an adults only wedding, it's fine to let a guest know you are only inviting adults.

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That is just something that needs to be nipped in the bud now. If you are having a kid free reception, let them know ASAP. If they are planning on bringing their sister-in-law who will be visiting that weekend, advise them that there simply isn't room for additional guests. A plus one is a plus ONE and for the life of me I can't figure out how some people do not understand this.

On our invitations, we noted that two seats have been reserved under their name. It seemed to have worked. I had no issues with people trying invite more than one guest.

I think it's all in how you send out your invitations. My FH and I are sending out ours with who is invited on them. For married couples we are putting Mr. and Mrs. ________. We are inviting some families and for those we are putting "The _________ Family". The best way I would say to handle people bringing more than you wanted to invite is to politely tell them that you can only accommodate those you addressed on the invitation.