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Plus one for groomsmen

Hilary, on June 17, 2018 at 10:39 PM Posted in Planning 0 14

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My fiancé has a groomsmen who has a girlfriend. She HATES me. When we are at events she won’t speak to me, or even look at me, she deleted my from Facebook, tells our mutual friends she doesn’t like me.... my question is do I have to invite her... I know the whole if they’re in a relationship they should be invited but what if they have absolutely no respect and hate me? I don’t really understand why she does, and I don’t really care to find out- she doesn’t impact my life at all... I just don’t want to pay for her to come when she decided she hates me for no reason.

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Latest activity by MrsD, on June 18, 2018 at 2:24 PM

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Xandria · on June 17, 2018 at 10:44 PM
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You should probably invite her. But it would be worth talking to her (or if she won't, talking to her boyfriend) before the wedding (or maybe before the invite goes out) to find out what problem she has.
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KiwiDerbyBride · on June 17, 2018 at 10:57 PM
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I'm afraid that unless she has assaulted you or stolen from you, you really do need to invite her. With any luck she won't come...
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BabsandBear · on June 17, 2018 at 10:58 PM
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I'd invite her. You are going to be so busy on your wedding day talking and thanking everyone else you wont even notice her there anyways.
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Crystal · on June 17, 2018 at 11:23 PM
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I would tell him flat out that she will not be invited. I'd refuse to pay a dime for someone like her to come.
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Lauren · on June 17, 2018 at 11:59 PM
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Hell no!!! No invitation for her!!
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KMedcalf · on June 18, 2018 at 1:28 AM
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Out of respect for you husbands friend, I would invite her. It’s customy to invite the couple. You’ll be so busy enjoying yourself with everyone who is happy and celebrating you won’t even notice her. As far as the money goes... i know it can suck paying for someone you don’t want though. I feel that way about paying to send invitations to people we know can’t come but have to anyways lol.
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FutureMrsCork · on June 18, 2018 at 1:31 AM
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This is a discussion to have with your FH. Is he willing to lose a friendship over this? If you do not invite the girlfriend, the groomsman will most likely take her side and back out (if he wants to keep his relationship). This could end the friendship as well unless they're the kind of men who can shrug it off as "women are crazy, but we're cool".
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Nicole · on June 18, 2018 at 1:54 AM
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I had a similar situation with my father in law wife she hates my husband and obviously me but when ever we are at family events we just kill her with kindness and same motto and the only reason she gets any ounce of respect from us is because my father in law so it's kinda like you have to invite her hope all works out on your special day
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Hilary · on June 18, 2018 at 3:03 AM
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We have had it and he thinks she shouldn’t be invited. The groomsmen and her have a weird relationship- I won’t share, not my business. But I’m just worried I guess about her feelings even though I want to be like eh forget it. You don’t give a crap about me- you aren’t coming!
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Officiallymrs · on June 18, 2018 at 8:33 AM
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I would extend the invitation to her, as much as you don’t want too ( I wouldn’t either ) it would be the right thing to do. And hopefully someday if they get married she does the right thing and invites you and your husband and not jsut your husband
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c · on June 18, 2018 at 9:46 AM
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You should invite her. I’m in the exact same boat as you and we are still inviting her although I’d rather have food poisoning a million times over, lol. We should just be the bigger people and honestly, we won’t probably have time to focus on them anyway.
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Soon2Bmrsp · on June 18, 2018 at 9:50 AM
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I would extend the invite to him as a plus one and if he chooses to bring her that's on him. If he chooses to bring someone else, that's on him, as well. I wouldnt go out of my way to invite her, you are friends with him. The invite would be extended to him to bring a SO
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Michelle · on June 18, 2018 at 11:25 AM
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I genuinely dislike our best mans girlfriend but I’m inviting her. It’s not my choice who he wants to hang out with all night. And considering everything the best man has done for FH in both their friendship and for the wedding, he can have whoever he wants there. There will be so many others there that I do like, I highly doubt I’ll notice her. I think you should leave it up to the groomsman
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MrsD · on June 18, 2018 at 2:24 PM
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I think your fiance should just tell his groomsman it's probably best if she doesn't come. I can't imagine she would want to come anyway? And the groomsman probably knows that too.
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