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Brittney
Dedicated November 2021

Plus One Drama

Brittney, on August 16, 2021 at 11:55 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 7
Another venting session for me haha
My moh recently did something that’s still angering me lolShe was the first person I told that I was getting married, because we have been friends for a long time and used to plan my wedding before I was even in a relationship. I told her very early on that I couldn’t afford to give plus ones, and the only people getting guests were those in relationships, as is proper etiquette. She mentioned that she assumed she’d have a plus one so she already told her best friend he was going with her. I was annoyed, but I’ve spent time with him a few times before and like him a lot, so I brushed it off and told her I’d just give him his own invite.
Fast forward to a few days ago, I handed her her invitation, and she opened it and saw “we have reserved 1 seat in your honor” and she goes “so I can only bring one person?” And I said “….yeah. Yourself.” She starts complaining and saying that she thought she would get a plus one (why are we back here, I have no clue) and I mentioned that she already invited her friend and I accommodated, but each seat is expensive and I’m on a budget. She kept pushing and saying that she was planning on bringing someone I would “LOOOVE” and pushed and pushed that I reluctantly gave in. I’m now realizing that anyone I LOOOOVE would already have an invite, and I have a strong feeling she is inviting yet ANOTHER one of her childhood friends, who is very nice, but I wouldn’t consider a close enough friend to invite to my wedding. I’m now regretting allowing the additional plus one. I don’t believe she means to be selfish, because as far as she knows, I do enjoy her friend. But she seems to not realize that she’s inviting HER close friends to my wedding. Her “special guest” is someone I would be excited to hang out with on another day, but I wouldnt really consider inviting him had she not already pushed it. She then proceeded to push another guest, who was a mutual friend of ours from college. He came in my last year, so I never got too close with him. She has continued hanging out with him after graduation and has become close with him, and she tried to push an invite for him as well. It just feels like she’s forgetting that this isn’t some big hangout, or a friends reunion - it’s my wedding day. Anyway, rant over hahaTl;dr - My moh pushed to somehow get two plus ones (and tried for a third) after I specifically told her I wasn’t giving any plus ones to anyone

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Latest activity by Melinda, on August 17, 2021 at 1:02 PM
  • Michelle
    Rockstar December 2022
    Michelle ·
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    Be firm and put your foot down. She has no right to bully you into inviting people you aren’t even close to. If she thinks she won’t be able to enjoy herself without them, she should decline the invitation.
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  • A
    Super December 2020
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    Definitely put your foot down. You gave an extra invite already, she doesn’t need another one.
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  • Tory
    Devoted May 2022
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    I definitely think one plus one for your MOH is nice to extend just because she’s doing so much for you/playing a big role in your day but the fact she keeps trying to push other people into your wedding is overstepping and I would put your foot down. There’s no reason for her to make this a reunion of all of her friends when it’s not her day like you had mentioned
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  • Heather
    Super November 2021
    Heather ·
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    Oh, no girl. Put your foot down. Firmly remind her that her original plus one was going to be her friend that you so graciously accommodated by going out of your way to give him a special invite. And let her know that you don't want her to bring it up again because the count is finalized. If she is mad then she is making it about HER and not YOU. Which I find to be really rude. My rule for my wedding is "unless you are gonna pay, then you don't have a say." Lol.

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  • Brittney
    Dedicated November 2021
    Brittney ·
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    Yes exactly! That’s why I didn’t really mind the first plus one. But I kept reminding her that she’s going to probably be busy during the day of, as will I, and we’re going up a day early, so I’m not sure how she plans for her plus one(s) to be arriving
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  • Brittney
    Dedicated November 2021
    Brittney ·
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    Haha!! I’m going to get that last line tattooed on my forehead 😂😂
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  • Melinda
    Expert March 2022
    Melinda ·
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    Tell her you've crunched numbers and there is no way the plus ones can happen.

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