Skip to main content

Post content has been hidden

To unblock this content, please click here

Amanda
Dedicated March 2019

Plus One Confusion

Amanda, on June 7, 2019 at 1:46 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 3

Not looking for advice, just kind of sharing a funny/awkward situation.

Background!

I'm doing a very budget conscious wedding, so FH and I decided on no plus ones unless people are married, the guest will know literally no one there besides us, or if the "plus one" is also considered a friend. The only people that this has caused grumbles from is my cousins. There are about 20 of them and we're all pretty close, so it's not like they won't have anyone to talk/hang out with, and my cousin is getting married before me and following the same approach for plus ones so I felt pretty confident in the decision.

The incident

So some of my cousins are 17-20 and still living at home. I wanted to be nice and send them their own STD, separate from their parents' since they're also adults and aren't just kiddos tagging along with mom and dad. THEN I get a call from my mom saying that one of my cousins assumed she got a plus one since she got her own STD, Oops! Thankfully my mom smoothed it over nicely, but I'm definitely hoping I don't run into this again!

3 Comments

Latest activity by Cristy, on June 7, 2019 at 4:42 PM
  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    Ah I am doing the same for my plus one situation. It bloats the list so much when everyone gets a plus one. Some people get kind of annoying about it but what can they do ahah it's just how it is, it's a lot of money per person.
    • Reply
  • Sarah
    Devoted October 2018
    Sarah ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    Just as a heads up, etiquette says if people are in a relationship they should be able to bring their significant other. Obviously, we don't know your specific situation, but you may get some backlash. Are you not going to invite someone's fiance if they aren't married? How would you feel if you your FH wasn't invited to a wedding that you were invited to just because you aren't married. Just food for thought.

    • Reply
  • Cristy
    Master May 2021
    Cristy ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    Yes "plus ones" are for truly single people. Anyone married or in a relationship should be invited by name. Spouses and significant others are not considered "plus ones."

    • Reply

You voted for . Add a comment 👇

×
WeddingWire celebrates love ...and so does everyone on our site! Explore how we embrace diversity

Groups

WeddingWire article topics