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Plus one advice

Lexy, on July 10, 2019 at 7:50 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 10

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For our wedding we’re giving plus ones to our wedding party, immediate family and others in long term relationships. The wedding party and immediate family automatically get one because they’re close to us and sort of incase they do get in a relationship between save the dates and the wedding day.

My question is, if we’re giving them a plus one can they bring whoever they want automatically or can we stipulate it needs to be someone you’re in an actual relationship with and not just a random hookup/first date person?

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Latest activity by MrsD, on July 10, 2019 at 12:47 PM

Super September 2021
Sharon · on July 10, 2019 at 7:53 AM
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If you give them a plus one it's their choice who they bring.
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Master May 2019
Chandra · on July 10, 2019 at 8:02 AM
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People in any relationship should both be invited by name on the invite. They are NOT plus ones.
Plus ones are for single guests and can bring whomever they like.
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Super April 2020
Emily · on July 10, 2019 at 8:29 AM
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I agree, if you give them a plus one, they can bring whoever they want. A significant other, not married, should be stated on the invitation and not be seen as a plus one!
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Legend November 2019
Caytlyn · on July 10, 2019 at 8:40 AM
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Plus ones are for single guests. People in relationships should be invited together by name. If you give a plus one to a single guest, they can bring whoever they want, you don’t get to dictate who it is.
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Just Said Yes May 2022
Lexy · on July 10, 2019 at 8:40 AM
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Thanks for the advice. I definitely agree people with non-married significant others should be invited. I counted them as plus ones rather than being a name on the invite in case for some awful reason they broke up. Because I wouldn’t want to still invite the person who is not family or a friend originally
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VIP June 2019
Formerbride · on July 10, 2019 at 8:40 AM
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That's the risk you run by giving single people a plus one. You can certainly tell them your stipulations but you will be kinda rude for doing so. We gave all my husbands single friends a plus one and none of them brought anyone. I was surprised.
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Master September 2019
Sarah · on July 10, 2019 at 8:45 AM
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It’s fine to count the SOs as plus ones for your guest list purposes but when invitations go out they need to be listed by name. If your guest is single and you’re writing “and guest” on the invite, you get no say in who the guest is.
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Expert August 2020
Arielle · on July 10, 2019 at 8:47 AM
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I agree with all the PP above. I am in a situation like this too.
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Just Said Yes May 2022
Lexy · on July 10, 2019 at 8:48 AM
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Going off what Steph said, how many single people who are offered a plus one will actually bring one? Because if it’s not that many people then I’m not as worried
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Legend July 2019
MrsD · on July 10, 2019 at 12:47 PM
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We didn't give any open "plus ones" besides to the wedding party if they wanted one (the single people all didn't want one so we ended up giving none). Everyone in a relationship was invited by name so there wasn't any plus ones, it was just inviting couples. If you give a plus one, you can't dictate who they bring.
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