Plus 1

So we are also allowing single people to bring a date (if the covid restrictions allow gatherings over 50). If we have to cut plus ones, the single folks would be the first ones to lose plus ones.


For me, married and long term couples should always be invited as a pair. Depending on your budget and your crowd, it’s polite to extend a plus one to single people but if you can’t afford it, you by no means have to.

Yes, plus one is assumed when they are single even if we don't really want it.

With everything going on and weddings having to be downsized I would advise to only give a plus one to those who are in relationships, as in no single people should receive one. For me that’s what we did just to ensure all family could be present in case we did need to downsize our guest list.

We have a set of guidelines for allowing plus ones: if they are in a long term relationship (at least a year by the time we send formal invites)/engaged/married, if they won’t really know anyone else at the wedding, and if they are in the wedding party. Most of the people on our list are part of a couple anyway, but there are a few not getting plus ones. The ones not getting a plus one have been in our friend group for years though and will know a ton of people there, so I’m hoping it isn’t an issue.

A couple in a committed relationship both need to be invited. My take on “committed” is together for at least six months or thereabouts at the time of the wedding. My MIL insisted I be invited to my SIL’s small destination wedding - now-husband and I had been together seven months at the time of the wedding. Truly single people don’t need a plus one - it’s nice if you have space and budget but you don’t have to. I do agree that elderly guests should be given a plus one if they need assistance.

View Quoted Comment Its not only the budget, our venue has a maximum capacity of 200. We already have 110 guest with curtain people with plus ones. If we allowed everyone to bring a plus one that's send us over capacity. Like a PP said, alot of the people who don't have plus 1s know everyone at the wedding, so they won't be entirely alone. I just hope ppl understand.

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For our wedding we aren't giving everyone a plus one. Those who are married/engaged/living together will definitely get a plus one. For the friends of ours who have "flings" they won't be invited. We are paying for our wedding and refuse to pay $80/person for someone we haven't met or don't know well!

View Quoted Comment I think they’ll be fine, especially since they know everyone. And if they are not understanding of it, then they can decline. It’s their choice.
Our decision came down to budget, which is why we said no children and if covid restrictions make it less than 50 allowed to gather, then we’ll start by cutting single plus ones.
I think right now people are more understanding and accommodating than in the past.

If I weren't offered a plus one and it wasn't a family wedding, I wouldn't go. That doesn't mean you should give every one a plus 1, but this is how a lot of guests feel, especially if they will be traveling or haven't seen the other guests in a while. Being seated alone at a table with high school acquiantences isn't always as fun as you think it will be.

View Quoted Comment There are committed couples who don't live together. I hate the trend of using that to draw the line

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And they would be invited to our wedding if that was the case, however in my fiance's and my life there are no committed couples who don't live together!!! If they don't live together its because they haven't been together long. I stated what we were doing at our wedding.

View Quoted Comment In my case, all the single people know everyone at the wedding. Its literally all family and like a hand full of friends. Plus, commented or not if you have a track record of running through women/men like toilet paper then why would I want pictures of your fling of the month in my pictures😅😅, I've seen so many couples have to explain "That's so and sos ex bf/gf" etc. I would really like to know everyone at my wedding.

*😅😅committed

View Quoted Comment It seems like this is more about your comfort than that of your guests. Let them make the decision.


My cousin had a small wedding and two couples who were living together have since broken up. The ex's are in some pictures. Oh well! Pick from the other 300 pictures for your photo album

I would allow people who don’t know anyone else

View Quoted Comment This may sound selfish but, Why would I care about their comfort when it comes to this at my wedding? Why would I in my right my pay $135 for ppl I don't know😅😅😅. You may have money like that but I don't sis, and I sure enough don't wannna scroll past 300 pictures I paid for to avoid somones ex fling. I do appreciate your input tho. I can definitely see it from your view. I'm gonna take full advantage of this being my husband and my day, so like a PP said if they can't respect that, they don't have to come. Trust there's always someone looking to take their spot.

View Quoted Comment That definitely goes without saying, for example. I have two recent friends I've met from work, I'm allowing them to bring their spouses so the 4 of them can socialize because they don't know anyone else at the wedding. I'm talking about those fast A family/friends members who don't know what a committed relationship is😅😅😅

Yes, we only did +1 for married people. A single friend asked if she could bring someone but she’ll know many other guests so I told her no, with covid as the excuse.