Please send me the RSVP!

Your deadline is a month away... just be patient and don't send out reminders until the deadline.

I'm sorry but you set your RSVP date as September 1st. You need to be patient and wait for that date. You should not be nagging / "reminding" people to send in their replies a month before the deadline. It's rude. Just be patient. You can contact them AFTER the deadline.

You gave them til 9/23 to respond. It will be ok. Breathe.

Don't send out any more reminders until after 9/1.

Get over it. Your rsvp date is September 1. You chose the date. You are annoying your guests with reminders for an rsvp that is not yet due.

You sent out invites a little early. Some people (like FH) dont even know for sure if they cab get time off work until a month out. Take a deep breath and give it time. Youll get your RSVPs.

My wedding is Sept. 16 and I'm still waiting for mine to come in as well. My deadline for RSVPs is Aug. 16 - one month in advance. While it's frustrating to me too that only 1/3 of my invited guests have responded, there's nothing I can do about it. I am waiting until after my Aug. 16 deadline to reach out to people. Just breathe and know that people send RSVPs back last minute. Good luck!

I don't think you sent them out early. Two months before your RSVP deadline is fine.

However you do need to wait. I can only request time off a month in advance, so while I'd get it and want to reply right away, I have to wait till at least a month before.

Patience is a virtue. Stop sending out reminders and busy yourself doing other things.

They still have an entire month. Just be patient.

I don't think you sent them out too early, but you don't need to start hunting people down until your deadline has passed - and that's still almost a month away. I know it's SO hard to wait and you just want to know if people are coming, but you'll have to just be patient. I had a ton of RSVPs trickle in at the beginning, had a several week long lull, and then the last week before my RSVP date I got a bunch in the mail. Just relax

Yeah.. My deadline is tomorrow and about 50 people haven't responsed. So stressful. A lot of those people I don't expect to come, but there a lot that I would have thought would! I am so nervous about asking. I feel like it will be awkward if their answer is no.

I don't think I was being rude or nagging by sending out a link to the wedding website with a little note like "hey, I see you haven't RSVP'ed yet here's a link to our wedding website if it makes it easier for you."

I know the waiting is killing me too !! They will come. I hate dates when there are none in the mail. Hahh.

Me too

Same date , same stress , I have about 1/3 back.

When you give someone until a certain date to respond to something, they have until that date to respond. No questions asked. Sending out reminders, pointing out that you see they haven't RSVP'd before that deadline implies that even though you gave them until a certain date to RSVP, you really expected everyone to RSVP earlier than that. It says "you really didn't have until 9/1 to respond." That's rude.

The truth is, you don't need to know 7 weeks before your wedding date whether people are coming. You really don't need this info right now. They still have a month to RSVP and then you still have several weeks after your actual RSVP deadline to turn in final numbers, work on a seating chart, and anything else you planned to do. Chill.

Also, keep in mind that when people get pushy about getting RSVPs back before the deadline (and yes, reminding people you need to know if they're coming and pointing out they haven't RSVP'd before your deadline is considered being pushy because they have done nothing wrong by not handing in their RSVP, yet), guests tend to get annoyed and may purposely wait to submit their RSVP until your due date. Really, stop pestering your guests to RSVP when they still have plenty of time to do so.