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Just Said Yes November 2023

Please help!! Two sets of bridesmaids? Part sit part stand. Sounds crazy i know🤦🏼‍♀️

Peraleskristin, on February 7, 2023 at 1:25 PM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 4

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So, I have already asked 3 people to be in my wedding. Future SIL, cousin and friend. Initially didn’t have my older girls in it (****) because my fiancé sounded like he didn’t want his two boys and girl (23,23,18) in it. Actually he wouldn’t say if he even wanted anyone lol.
Now he is saying he wants his dad & two sons. I definitely always wanted my girls in it & now that his kids are. I think it could be quite bonding but I still want the bridesmaids I already asked to be in it for diff reasons. They are more involved in planning, bachelorette, bridal party, speeches etc.
That would mean he has 3 and I have 6-7 (depending if one of my daughters actually wants to be in it). I’m struggling to figure out how I pull this off? I definitely don’t want them all standing. It would be obvious I have a ton on my side and he only has 3. Do I have my girls stand beside me and have the others walk down the aisle and the sit in the front?Ugh I don’t know! Please help with any ideas!

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Latest activity by CM, on February 18, 2023 at 10:15 AM

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Jacks · on February 7, 2023 at 3:35 PM
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Google "uneven bridal parties" for lots of ideas. You could have both bridal parties sitting in the front row. If you want someone up beside you, you could have your MOH and his Best Man stand next to you with the rest of the wedding party in the front row. For the processional they could still walk, and for the recessional they don't need to be in pairs, they could just "weave" one BM, one GM etc.
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Lady · on February 7, 2023 at 3:47 PM
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I think it would look much weirder to have half your bm's stand and half sit than to just have all of them up and your FI have fewer ppl. Have the guys come in from the side and stand up front with the groom while the girls process down the aisle in front of you. Tons of weddings do it that way even with even sides.
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Lisa · on February 7, 2023 at 3:58 PM
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Having half your bridesmaids stand and half sit may make them feel "ranked": the half chosen to sit during the ceremony may make them feel less important than those who get to stand up at the altar with you. Each side of the wedding party doesn't have to be even. I would either have everyone stand at the altar, or only have the MOH and best man at the altar (and everyone else sits), or have everyone sit.
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CM · on February 18, 2023 at 10:15 AM
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I can't even count the number of weddings I've attended where the sides didn't "match." Seriously, who cares? Your wedding party should be about the people you are close to and want to honor. The two sides do not have to be even and IMO should not be if the numbers don't happen to work out that way. To put it in perspective if FI had 6 children and you had 3 would you leave out three of his? Same difference. I would not have half sitting, half standing for the reasons PP have given.
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