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If he wants to wear a suit let him wear a suit. I agree with him no one's going to notice a difference. Why do you want him in a tux rather than a suit? How much of the wedding planning are his own thoughts and opinions vs your thoughts and opinions.


But if cost isn't an issue a tux for the ceremony and a suit for the reception could be a compromise.

View Quoted Comment Because our wedding will be in the evening and both my dress and our venue are more on the formal side. We’re pretty casual people so this is the only opportunity I’ll probably have to see him in a tux, he’s not adamant but he just doesn’t think it matters

I would ask him if he would be open to trying on a tux when he goes looking for suits. If he tries it on and still doesn’t like it, then I would drop the topic altogether. This is his wedding also, and he needs to wear what he feels best in. This would be like him telling you your beautiful flowy dress isn’t what he wants to see you in, so you need to switch it to a tight sequined mermaid gown with long sleeves.

Unless he was critical or helpful in your dress selection, I think you two should let each other decide your wedding looks. Suits can be just as formal for most special occasions. But, I guess you can quietly start watching James Bond movies and he may get inspired. Or go to a menswear store and you both see different looks. Fyi, life is long and there will be other opportunities to wear tuxedos, etc. My husband has several and his first was bought as part of someone else's wedding party. Do I have as many full-length gowns? No.

View Quoted Comment I think that’s a good idea! I think there’s a small part of him that thinks he wouldn’t look good in it but I think he’d look awesome!

View Quoted Comment He actually did help me find my dress! I think my best bet is to just have him try one on, i don’t think he’s ever worn one!

Suits can still look just as nice. We had a 3 PM ceremony and 5 PM reception but my husband still wore a suit. I recommend letting him wear what he feels comfortable in. Some guys don’t like the look the look of tuxes or they don’t like bow ties and like neck ties instead, like my husband (if you wear a suit, you can do a neck tie because there’s not bright satin fabric on the lapel like there is on a tux). Below is the gorgeous blue suit my husband wore for our wedding:

Forgot to mention venue: ceremony was at an ornate Catholic church and reception was at what was formerly a fancy upscale restaurant.


Above picture was only done outside of our getting ready hotel for background purposes.

I agree with everyone else. Suits can look just as nice and I doubt most people will notice a difference. If it is really important to you, you could ask him to try on a tux and see how he feels in it. But it should be his choice. My FH will be wearing a suit for our evening ceremony.

View Quoted Comment Agree with this. No guest will judge your fiancé if he prefers to wear a suit.

I had a 4 pm ceremony and reception after and my husband wore a suit. It’s also his wedding day and I understand you want to see him in a tux but he should be able to wear what he’s comfortable in. My husband wore a tux for someone else’s wedding as a groomsman and much prefers a suit (so do I tbh) so it was a no brained he’d wear a suit. You can ask him to just try one on for you and maybe he’ll love it but no one will notice the difference and if he wants a suit then he should be able to wear one. They’re virtually the same except for the tie/ bow tie. He may have helped you pick your dress but in the end you had the final say as should he. I wouldn’t encourage starting off your marriage by trying to have your family help you persuade him to wear something he doesn’t want. My husband wore a nice burgundy suit for ours ☺️

Honestly, suits and tuxes are so similar that nobody will likely even notice the difference, but it also won't feel like a huge difference to your fiancé either. The only difference is that a tux has a shiny lapel, and sometimes the sheen isn't as prominent so it's hard to even tell. I think other posters' suggestions to have him try on both and see what he likes best is a good idea. He might even end up liking the tux better once he tries one on. You can tell him your preference, but I'd let him make the final call in the end.

I had a similar issue with my husband when we went to look for his outfit. He liked something with a shawl lapel whereas I preferred a peak lapel. I definitely felt some type of way about it in the moment when that was what we were hyper-focused on, but I didn't even notice it on our wedding day. I get that this can be frustrating, but it honestly won't even register when you're walking down the aisle

There’s different kinds of suits- maybe a 3-piece suit instead of a 2-piece suit. Tux is highest formality, and should match your venue if worn. 3-piece suit is more formal than a 2-piece.

I'm a huge formal wear guy so my opinion is different from most of the people here, I think a tuxedo is significantly better than a suit if you go with the classic style - ie, a black silk bow tie that you tie yourself, a pleated shirt, maybe a nice white linen pocket square - the way Cary Grant would do it. If he's not adamantly against it he can at least try it and see how it looks. On the other hand, if you're thinking of doing things the more modern way, with a colored long necktie and a matching vest the way the majority of people seem to do it today for weddings and proms, a suit would look more classic. Especially a three piece suit as mentioned above.

Suits still look really good and can be elegant! My partner is wearing a blue suit with an ivory bowtie and vest to class it up, and it will be fine. My dress is a couture ballroom gown with a high neck, sleeves, and a cathedral length train; it's extremely formal and I haven't been worried one bit about my partner's suit not living up to it.

People won't really notice and no one really goes "Wow, the groom didn't wear a tux!" You could still class it up with a really nice boutonniere, cufflinks, and shiny shoes.

This may come as a surprise, and I know that there are many grooms and groomsmen who wear a tuxedos these days regardless of time of day or formality of the event but unless your affair is actually designated as black tie, your fiance happens to be correct. Formal wear is what you wear to a formal, black tie affair. It has nothing to do with who is in the wedding party and who isn't, your dress, or how nice the venue is. If it's appropriate for the groom to be wearing a tuxedo then properly it's appropriate for guests as well, in other words, a black tie event.