Please Help!!!! Honeymoon fund?

One friend suggested a donation website that was not wedding or vacation related and I could put the link in the card with our invitation, but I was wondering if there was another site someone had used or seen? Thank you!!!!

We booked a cruise with Carnival. Carnival has a registration where people can buy you things on the cruise. For instances Drinks by the pool. All the money actually just goes into an account and then they cut you out a check for all the money received. And they did not take a fee. You don't have to have a cruise booked at the time to use it.

That's a great idea, thank you!

Use honeyfund.com you can add things to your "registry" and get the money they give you through Paypal. The things you add can say like plane ticket and ask for 12 donations of $50 or something like that. Check it out.

Don't, there is no polite way to do this. No one needs to be told cash is a good gift. Don't register anywhere and your guests will get the point.

It's a separate and send invitation, so it wouldn't be on the actual invitation. I HATE asking for money or really anything, but it's the only way we'll be able to take a trip. The separate card will say something like "in lieu of gifts, the couple has set up a honey moon fund if you would like to donate."

I didn't even pose it as a donation. When people asked me where I was registered I told them through carnival. My guest thought it was great idea. Did not put it on the invitation. Put a link on my wedding website.

Just hope they give you cash. I wouldn't mention it at all. I just don't see an appropriate way to go about it.

P.S. I'm getting married 10/11/14 also!

Even if it is a separate card you don't include it with the invitation.. If you don't like asking for things definitely don't because that's exactly what that is.

Your best bet is to go with the carnival side and you can pick the specific cruise later that fits your time and where you want to go! You can put the link under the registry section of your wedding website! I think that would be fine!!

But absolutely do not put in a seperate card with the invitation about the registry.... The invite should just be asking the guests to come not telling them what they can get you!

And for people who may not use computers it will definitely spread through word of mouth!

You said this is the only way you can take a trip. As always with weddings, same goes for HM..please plan the HM you can afford or think you'll be able to save up by next summer. It would be dreadful to have people gift you dinners, excursions, etc. then not be able to afford to go. Any insert with the invitation should not include gift info (regardless if registry or honeyfund). Put it on your wedding website or use word of mouth. I'd set up at least a small gift registry though too.

Thank you all for your input .

We are thinking about using that extra card for a link to our wedding website. Then guests might see we'd like to take a trip. I won't be asking, but the information will be out there.

Never ask for money. A honeymoon registry is asking for money and lying. It also takes some money that your guests are trying to give you without their knowledge. They think they are buying you a swim with the dolphins for $100, but really you get a $93 check.

So, if you want money, make a small registry or not even one. When people ask about what you want for your wedding you should say "We don't need much, but we are saving up for our honeymoon" and leave it at that. People aren't stupid and they will get the hint. Everyone knows that money is a great gift and everyone could use some. Some guests will still give you boxed gifts because they dislike giving money, as I do.

We listed our honeyfund on our website. We chose one to help with home upgrades as I'm moving in with him and want to do some basic maintenance and upgrading on things like the windows. We did a lot of research and chose honeyfund.com because it's free for you and mostly free for your guests (meaning if they chose to send a cash or check from reading your registry there is no fee, if they chose to pay with a credit/debit card they only charge pay pal rates). I loved that they have sample registries that you can copy for specific things, pick your destination desired and it will have suggestions to donate to i.e. scuba diving, site seeing, deep sea fishing . .

whatever and you can add delete and edit to make it yours. I agree. Don't add the card requesting for honeymoon donations, We added only a website card so they can get all information and find the registry.

ETA: if you decide not to go as long you haven't booked/pre paid for your cruise you can collect all gifts, and they do not have to go to the cruise.

There is no polite way to ask for money. Word of mouth will work, and that's the best.

You do not include anything related to gifts or honeyfunds in any part of your invitation package. It doesn't matter if it is a separate card. It is tacky to ask for monetary contributions or gifts as part of your wedding invitation.

Also, if you can't afford to go on a trip now, then wait and save up for it. You aren't entitled to a honeymoon on your guests' dime. A honeymoon is not a requirement or a necessity.

I am not asking for anyone to fully fund our honeymoon. I'd rather someone know what we'd like than waste their money on something IF they were going to bring/give anything. We've never really taken a trip and are already planning on paying for it but would love the assistance. We live a very simple life and aren't spoiled by any means. We deserve and will take a honeymoon.

You "deserve" a honeymoon even though you can't afford one? Wow. Such entitlement.

Don't put it in the invites. Spread it by word of mouth or by making a wedding website and providing the link to honeyfund or wherever you want register. I will say alsom make a small registry to give guests options if you think they will be funny about the honeyfund.

Listen. I've read plenty of "etiquette" article saying it's perfectly fine to include the enclosure card regarding registration information. Traditions are changing with the time. Simply "spreading the word" will not get you what you want and regardless of how practical and lovely a wedding website is. You'll have guest still asking you "where are you registered?" "Can I bring a plus 1,2 or 3?" I'm using Homeymoonwish.com and have gotten positive feedback. I will recommend however, still set up a gift list with common realtailers. Target, Bed Bath & Beyond, Macy''s. For guest who like giving wrapped gifts. Even if you don't need anything look for upgrades needed in the kitchen. Bottom line a enclosure registration card is acceptable! Google it! Some brides get wrapped up in etiquette, traditions & unrealistic expectations.

We put a link to our weddingwire wedding website on our invitations for wedding event info, directions, online RSVP, etc. On our website, we included a link to our registries: honeyfund and cardavenue (gift card registry). Honeyfund has the option of printing the little card inserts to include with your invitation, but we opted not to do that, as all the information anyone needs is on our website. Honeyfund has a wonderful "introduction" paragraph explaining that we have all ther househould items we need and that this is our "alternative" registry. The gift card registry we added as an option for people who don't feel comfortable using credit cards online and would rather get us a gift card...cardavenue directs guests to the individal store websites to purchase giftcards and ship to us or provides store locations where people can pick up a gift card to give in person. Honeyfund allows you to chose cash, check, credit card options for guests so thay can pay however that prefer.