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My main fear would be something you can't predict like being put on bed rest at 8 months. I would talk to your doctor, then talk to friends & family who have had children and see what they think. Is there anyway to move the date closer or postpone?

It would be easier to push off the wedding than to get married sooner. We graduate college 2 weeks before our wedding.my parents put a deposit on the venue, the photographer and the cake. Save the date cards are being sent this week and they are part of the invitation package and my dress is paid for. The dress definitely isn’t going to fit. We weren’t going to try for a baby until we were married for 6months to a year and my future in-laws kept hinting we should wait intil
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I would ask your venue and other vendors if you could change the date under the circumstances, I'm sure they'd be willing to work with you as long as you aren't asking for your money back. I've never been pregnant, but I've been around lots of pregnant women. A wedding at 8 months pregnant sounds stressful/painful. It's pretty common for a woman to be put on bed rest during the last trimester, a coworker of mine was put on bed rest about halfway through her pregnancy.

I would also hold off on sending those save the dates until you've reached a final decision.

I never considered that I’d have to be on bedrest. That sounds horrible. I guess we need to talk to the venue and the photographer. The dress is special order.

Is there some reason you can't move the date? Not saying you want to do that, but in your post you made it sound like you would if you could, but it's impossible. But it's not. I moved our date, after we had booked all the major vendors. We had life interrupt our plans, and so we needed more time. My vendors were all very understanding, and since they all had the newly proposed date available, it was no problem to move it. They all just emailed me the adjusted contracts with the new date for me to sign. Done. I didn't even lose my deposits. I think most vendors realize that stuff happens, and you can't always go with the original plan.

If you'd rather get married after your baby is born, I would reach out to your vendors and just explore the idea of postponing. See what, if any, dates they have available a few months down the road, or even 1 year out. You might be able to keep your same date (or close) in 2021.

I would surely talk to the venue and any vendors hired to see if your deposits can be transferable to a later date after you have a baby. Maybe even may 2021 if you like may a lot. I would ask sooner than later because it's 7 months away for them to re-book your date.

I've seen some very lovely very pregnant brides recently. Being said, though, lots can happen in a pregnancy. Before 12 weeks the miscarriage rate is higher, in the 3rd trimester a lot can go wrong. If you can move the date I would consider doing that but you may also want to wait to make a decision until your first scan and whatnot to make sure your pregnancy is a healthy one. My sister recently (who had 4 kids at the time) found out she was pregnant and thought she was only 8 weeks only due to birth control and having some spotting. Turns out she was 22 weeks along in her pregnancy!

I have heard in the past of venues being very accommodating with pushing the wedding back... just explain the situation, I would personally try to push it back before having the wedding at 8 months pregnant... you never know how you will be feeling

First of all, congratulations!!! Second, I would contact your vendors & explain the situation to them. Under the circumstances, I am sure they will be understanding and try to work with you. You have several choices here: if you want to be married before the birth of the child, you could either do a courthouse marriage or a small elopement then have the celebration you were currently planning on your one year anniversary. You could also see if your vendors could push the date up and have the wedding in the next few months. Or, if you don’t mind waiting, just push the wedding out another year. Life has unexpected surprises for us sometimes! I am sure your vendors will understand

Look into pushing the date back. You may not lose any deposits if you book the same vendors on a different date.

Also, don't worry about being put on bedrest. That's not common; < 20% of women are prescribed bedrest and it's usually not for an extended period of time. I have a cousin who walked down the aisle at 7 1/2 months and was fine all day long. A friend was actively working and bowling on a league up till the day before she went into labor....and that was with twins! It wasn't early labor, either. She was 39 weeks 1 day. The last thing a pregnant woman needs is to hear horror stories.

Congrats on the baby!

I don't think I'd risk being 8mo pregnant for a wedding. Baby could come early, bedrest is possible, and weddings are SO successful, it's just another thing you have to deal with. I'm currently pretty uncomfortable at times at 23 weeks pregnant!

Another thing to consider is that babies come when they want to. My daughter was a month early, for example. That close to your due date, there’s a chance you could be spending your wedding day in the hospital with a newborn.

First I would talk to your doctors. Anything can happen between then and now and there's not really any way to predict what might occur. If you're young and healthy, there's no reason to believe you would be put on bed rest. But again, anything can happen. Talk to your families soon too to get their opinions. See if there are any health issues that run on either side that might be of concern. I feel like you have reason to believe you'll be fine throughout the pregnancy. But check with your doctors. Then I'd talk to your vendors. I think you can absolutely have the wedding when you originally planned it although it may be different than you envisioned. People know you were engaged and planning the wedding before the pregnancy, so I would do everything to have it when scheduled if possible. i doubt you can get any of your money back from the custom ordered dress, But maybe there's a way you can have a seamstress add some fabric to make it fit? OR you can try to sell it on stillwhite.com and find something else.