Planning

Me and my fiancé have always been last-minute planners, but wedding planning has become a whole new thing.

i compromise by letting him relax about almost everything, doing deep research and reaching out to vendors for quotes and gathering ideas. Then when he’s in the mood to talk about it, I already have all the info and he just has to choose which of the 3 I have planned.

it kinda works. :p but we’re 2 weeks out, and I’m a little nervous about a few things getting down in time...

Can you reach out to a few and inquire about availability and if they are available ask when they suggest you book by? I reached out to numerous photographers 11 months before our date and most were booked. I waited until 10 months before for our DJ and he said several people were inquiring about our date and he needed a deposit that weekend. Maybe that will show your significant other that you can’t wait.

I showed him messages from a couple vendors saying they’re already booked for our date. Lol

Definitely don’t wanna generalize but that doesn’t surprise me lol. My FH doesn’t give two farts about the planning process and I had to explain to him why we couldn’t wait to book several vendors. He finally got it lol. Just keep showing him.

Yea I feel ya aha my husband kept thinking oh well there's time right... I mean ... When he said that we were maybe ten months away and sure there was time but people get booked faster than ya think and time flies faster than ya think.

Just have to he honest and tell him that places book a year in advance, even earlier for some more popular places.
Good vendors are going to be booking up quickly. Unless the wedding is not on a Saturday, chances are booking too close to the wedding is gonna leave you guys more stressed than necessary.
Ours is a little less than a year away and we booked our ceremony/reception venue 14 months in advance, who already has another wedding that day. Other places either didn't have the day or the room we wanted available on our planned date.

Maybe show him some of the posts here with brides upset because of vendors and venues booking up years in advance. My now-husband was the same way. He sat here though for two days and say me freaking when after our baker had to cancel less that two months before the wedding that It was near impossible to find another because of the time

My FH didn't realize that if we wanted to get married in 2020 (we got engaged 6/29/19), we would have to get on the ball fast. He was like "can we just enjoy being engaged for a minute" and I said "yes, but lets enjoy it at a venue tour"

It wasn't until touring venues that he realized a LOT of 2020 dates had already been booked, that's how we ended up going with a Sunday wedding.

Lol we started booking things February 2019 for our April 2020 wedding. I follow our reception venue on social media, about a month or so ago they posted that they have 4 spots available before July 2020 and that's with them doing 2 weddings most Saturdays. Even when I was booking 14 months out I got vendors that told me they were booked for the date. Like people have said I would call some places and ask what they recommend for booking timelines. Maybe even ask if your date is available (if you have one) or what dates are available in a certain month if you have that picked.

Yea my fiancé was the same. My wedding is in a month and he’s just now asking questions and acting interested even though he was the one who wanted a wedding in the first place. I did the research on my own, narrowed it down to 2-3 vendors, and showed him the options. Whether he picked one or said he didn’t care, I signed the contract and put down the deposit. Some men just don’t get it and I’ve learned not to take it personally.

Chile.... I am going through the same exact thing. I just decided to changed my wedding date back a year because my fiance' is moving in slow motion. I told him we need to book a venue like NOW. They just dont understand.

I would definitely reach out to venues and vendors to ask what their opinion is. My venue said a year and a half in advance if not more. We booked about a year out. I talked with my fiancé about it and he was fine after seeing that information.

My FH was the same way. I scheduled times to go look at venues anyway (no harm in scoping it out right? 😉). We found one we both really liked and the only date they had available in the spring was our date. After hearing that straight from the venue and seeing the place firsthand, he was all of a sudden on board for making the deposit.