Planning wedding before engagement

Propose**** instead of promise!

If you have agreed to get married and are planning a wedding, you are engaged. That's what makes an engagement. The proposal and ring are optional.

I was with my boyfriend for 10 years before he purposed to me. I did not plan a single wedding thing till we were engaged. Life changes, things happen, we finally got accepted on a house 2 weeks after our engagement so that made up change our date to 2 years out instead of a year. Plus Things were booked 2 years out. With brides moving 2020 to 2021. 2021 is going to be a crazy vendor year for weddings but things change... I wouldn’t start till your engaged. At that point he mid as we’ll hand the ring over. Sorry not trying to be mean just don’t get it lol... I didn’t plan nothing till 4 months of being engaged was nice to enjoy the moment and not rush into it

I don’t understand why the proposal has to be delayed because of covid, however, as PP mentioned, if you’re planning a wedding you are engaged. I see no issue with booking vendors.

View Quoted Comment The week before everything closed he was going to pick out the ring (he was waiting on a bonus) and the store he was purchasing with is closed unfortunately.

View Quoted Comment Completely agree with this comment. It’s either your engaged or not. I’ve had 2 friends get engaged during this time. One was at the park and one was on a zoom call with all their family in there home.

As above, always true ( not new): when you have agreed to definitely get married, you are engaged. You may not have a formal proposal yet, or ever. You may not have a ring yet, or ever. Those things are nice but never necessary. You are engaged. Congratulations on your engagement! Go forth and plan.

View Quoted Comment A ring isn't what makes you engaged. My husband and I were equally engaged as anyone else when we decided to get engaged. The ring came after. The decision you two make together to take the steps towards marriage are what make you engaged. Many cultures don't actually have engagement rings as standard practice and the concept of the diamond engagement ring in the US really started in the 1930s as a way for De Beers to drive up diamond sales after World War I.

View Quoted Comment This comment was encouraging. I guess it’s hard to process not doing it the “traditional way”. It’s weird times right now, but I guess it’s what works for us. Thank you.

View Quoted Comment Thank you!!!

View Quoted Comment Yeah I could definitely see your perspective. My best friend got pregnant in the middle of planning her wedding and she still had it! I think the worst that could happen is if the worst of the worst happened, we would lose a deposit that would definitely be on us. What’s most important to us is that we get married in 2021, whether that’s in the middle of the week or a weekend.

I would have a serious discussion with your partner about this and if you are both 100% on the same page in regards to future plans before booking anything!!

If you’re planning your wedding, you’re engaged. A “proposal” and a ring is only a formality.

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This, 100%! You are engaged and can now embrace wedding planning.

I remember planning before i was officially proposed to but we made it clear this was what we were headed to anyway so i think it's fine if you do

We discussed and decided to start planning our wedding before we got a ring and before he formally proposed. You can get married without the ring and proposal. There’s nothing to stop you from planning your wedding.

I bought my wedding dress and then two weeks later my fiancé “proposed”. As others said, I really considered ourselves engaged anyway, we both started to go ahead and plan before a ring.


And everyone, I can understand why an engagement would be postponed. Rings can be expensive and sometimes it’s a lengthy process to choose. My fiancé chose my ring, complete surprise to me and he took his time while doing it. Anyway, no problem with it whatsoever!! good luck girl.