Hi! So I'm getting married 5/22/22 and my son will be 19 months old. I want him to be a part of the wedding somehow and was hoping to have him come down the aisle with my daughter who will be 7. I have to email the venue back with my start time soon and I know I want a daytime early afternoon wedding like 2pm. So I started to look into what his nap schedule might be like around that age. It looks like he should be down to 1 nap by then, waking up 4-5 hours before bedtime. So if he goes to bed at 7 he should be waking up around 2. However I know from experience every kid is different so there's no way to really know.
If we end up waking him up mid nap to participate in the wedding, then maybe send him back with the sitter to relax and try to get another cat nap in after an hour or so do you think that would work? I don't want to spend the day with him being overtired and cranky and not be able to be fully present to deal with it. Any advice?
I personally wouldn't schedule my wedding around a child's sleep schedule, BUT I also don't have kids so it's easy for me to say that right now.
I will say, I've been to a lot of weddings where small children were in it (1-3 years old), and they almost always cried during the whole ceremony. Probably for the exact reason you're wanting to figure his schedule out, nap time crankiness.
That being said, your plan sounds like it's a good one! Again, I'm not a mother, so I have no experience about nap times and sleep schedules lol. I would just make sure you have a sitter on standby during the ceremony in case he does start to cry. That way they can slip away to calm him down for you.
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Thanks, we are definitely planning to hire someone so grandparents don't have to miss anything. Sleep is Soo important for kids even missing 30 mins of a nap can turn them into little terrors! I'm traumatized from my daughter lol so I just want to go the least disruptive route for him.
I think having someone that is 100% there to tend to him will be a better bet than scheduling around naps. Plus at 19 months he could be a no napper or big napper, you just never know. Toddlers are a crap shoot! For the minder, if it can be someone that he is comfortable with but not someone who will get distracted at the wedding - his regular babysitter, maybe? That way he can be there for the parts he needs to he but if he get’s over tired, they can take him home or to an quieter place and won’t be bummed out by missing the wedding.
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I know it's totally up in the air! I wanted an early wedding anyway though, I am just not a night time person. Hopefully we'll have someone we're comfortable with by then so they can take him home if he needs a break and he'll be comfortable. Thanks!