Planning rant

I don’t think I’m quite understanding what the problem is. There’s nothing wrong with an intimate destination wedding and a larger reception at home. No matter how/when/where you get married, you’re not going to make everyone happy. So if your only concern is about your aunts and uncles being upset, they will get over it.

View Quoted Comment I feel like I'm overthinking it lol

We had a beach wedding and only invited 55 people. Of course we had family that were mad they Werner invited but we were trying to keep it small. The best advice I can give you is not to worry about everybody else and do what makes you happy. I think having a reception back home after your DW is absolutely fine and then you can have more people

I feel like everyone is like "do what you want you want it's your wedding! " But I have also read a bunch of stuff oh here saying it's rude to not invite people to the ceremony but invite them to a reception. I mean I get it that mine is a bit different being that they are different days and it's very black and white who is invited and who isn't and its not like I'm picking random aunts/uncles/cousins and not others.

We are going to have a DW and are only inviting immediate family. That means, including myself and FH, it’s a total of 10 of us.

In the beginning my mom kept trying to force me to invite my aunts (her sisters) who I don’t speak to anymore. I told her that no one would be invited past immediate family and she said they probably won’t come, but I still needed to try to invite them. Needless to say she lost that battle because ultimately this is my FH and my wedding.

We mainly wanted to keep it small to help with costs, but the price we believe is the same because we decided to pay for our families travel and accommodations. To us it is more important to have our family there together than to try to entertain other people like friends and extended family at a party.

You just need to come up with something that works for you and your FH

We have a destination wedding planned and we are only inviting specific people. Aunts and uncles, parents and some of my good friends. For some reasons, my fiance doesn't want his siblings there. I have tried and tried to get him to change his mind but it's not worth the fight. Anyway, he explained to them situation of us moving, getting married on the way to our new home and how we were just inviting specific people. They handled it really well! No hurt feelings at this point. Let's hope it stays that way.

I see nothing wrong with your plans! People in my area do it all the time because the winters are so cold, so they go down south and have small family ceremonies, and come back and have a reception for a larger crowds of extended family and friends in the spring!